Tag: Grief
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The Grief We Grow Old Enough to Understand
I didn’t understand the old woman’s words of wisdom then. They were something it took 50 years to grow into.
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Still Walking, Thank You Very Much
A red hiking pole from the Camino de Santiago became my mother’s, then mine — and an unexpected conversation with a 90-year-old neighbor about why we refuse the cane.
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Travel for Solar Return: The Three Months Prior
Three months before my Solar Return, grief arrived — and what followed wasn’t chaos but restructuring. Pluto–Saturn territory: estate planning, financial documents, disciplined output. Part 5 of an ongoing experiment in relocation astrology.
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The Grief Book Returns, Expanded
I’m going back through my older non-fiction (and fiction) books that have been off the market for eons, making some minor updates and expansions, including cover changes and reformatting, and getting them back out there. This one was written for writers and creatives trying to work while grieving, but is useful to anyone carrying loss.…
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Southern Cemetery Etiquette
There’s an etiquette in Southern cemeteries — and in returning to the town where Mama is buried. A meditative essay on grief, memory, and the quiet rituals that hold us together long after loss.
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When You’re Older…and Everyone Disapproves of Your New Love
Granddaddy’s been gone for over 15 years, but if he were alive tonight at 105, I’d want to ask his relationship advice. Not about a romantic relationship but about how to deal with disapproval of a romantic relationship that has been bringing me a lot of joy amongst the rollercoaster epiphanies. Of course, I…
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The Dark Night of the Soul
The Dark Night of the Soul is a rather ominous term for something that happens in some lives, but not all. I believe that some people actually make it through their entire existence on the planet without encountering anything as dark and devastating as a Dark Night. Those who do–and survive–are forever changed. The term…
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Movie Thoughts: PREMONITION
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I finally saw Sandra Bullock’s Premonition last night. The girls and I had wanted to see the movie ever since we saw the trailer. It looked like it had all the stuff I love—suspense, a little bit of time travel, fighting the forces…
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Sometimes Music Says It Best
No matter how eloquent or poetic I sometimes wax, there are still times when only a song can say it for me. Even when I myself cannot manage to sing through the tears in my throat or the laughter in my heart. This is one of those times, so I’ll let someone else’s lyrics speak…
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Law of Attraction: Reeling in That Which Was Lost
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I think that in times of grief and loss, we send out such strong waves of energy saying “Come back!” that lots of things do come back, just not the ones we expect. With so much loss over the past couple of months,…
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Energies, Exponentially
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Some connections are harder than others to break, particularly when you don’t really want to break them. Both parties have to want to. Otherwise, you just keep re-attaching and feeling the other’s pain. I’ve noted that with a number of people in the…
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Flat Out: You’re Wrong
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. No. What has happened is not reason to “expect nothing.” Grief and loss on my part do not mean you were “right.” My life is not an argument for your entertainment, nor should it be your hobby. I am still working toward manifesting…
