Category: Grief
Posts on grief in its many forms — the acute losses, the slow ones, the ones nobody else notices. What it asks of us, what it takes from us, what it eventually leaves behind. Lived experience, not a roadmap.
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The Best Course of Action
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Shannon is a Goddess-send to me right now. She and I have been through a lot of grief over the past six months—breakups, deaths, disruption, a lot of loss. In spite of spending the evening with her and a tow truck, she indulged…
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Random Thoughts
Stayed home today. Mostly sleeping or not sleeping. The Ether is so active right now, trying to help, and it’s a jumble. I got a good 3 hours’ of sleep before Shannon left for school and I woke and it’s been fretful sleep ever since. Don’t remember my dreams, just that they’re so active right…
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The Treat: A Bearable Lightness of Being
The Treat’s been on my mind again. I can feel his energy all around me but things are different now. It’s lighter, cleaner, happier. He’s in a good place, or at least, in the beginnings of a good place For so long, I’ve felt him reaching out to me, his anxieties, his sadness, his wounded…
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Sin-Eaters
I look up from my computer—accounting, bleah— and realize that the rest of the house is both quiet and dark. The girls’ doors are closed and they’re tucked in for the night. The iPods are off and the indie music has gone silent for this day. The dog is subdued and napping on the kitchen…
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Sobering Matters
Dealing with my dad’s estate has spurred me to update my will again to make sure some new material is covered. Whether you’re doing one for the first time or the 50th, it’s a sobering experience. As I went through the checklist to see if I’d missed anything, some of the questions really stood out…
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The Ten of Cups Is What I Want
There’s a reason I keep the Ten of Cups card on my Light Altar, on the church rail right next to my Celtic Jesus statue. In the Tarot deck, the Ten of Cups is the happy ending emotionally. It’s peace, joy, contentment, the emotional culmination of the happy home and family. It’s new love, carried …
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Follow the Effort
A few years back, I heard someone complain to her personal coach that her relationship with her brother was over because he didn’t show any indication of caring about her as a person. Her coach asked if there was anything at all he’d done for her, even if she didn’t like it. He had. He’d…
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A Useful Woman
Something Obi-Wan said to me when she and I last talked keeps whispering in my ear. I’m not hearing it. I am standing in my front yard with a small chainsaw and way too many power tools at my disposal and not enough testosterone. My muscles ache. I’m drenched, exhausted, dirty. The evidence of my…
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Dating Myself?
Doing things as a couple should certainly be a fun thing, but it doesn’t have to be the only avenue for enjoying yourself. Doing things in a group can be fun, too, but what if you don’t have a group or the group pairs off or your group just doesn’t share all of your interests?…
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Law of Attraction: When Experts Fail
Even people who teach the Law of Attraction and its benefits can fail miserably at it. But they do become terrific examples of how it works! At least six months ago, a man who teaches community classes in Universal Law and writes instructional materials about it sold me a couple of products that were helpful…
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Visualizing the Right Answer
One of the best decision-making tools I have ever used involves visualization, and it’s one my personal Yoda introduced me to. I won’t describe the technique in as much depth as necessary to get the full benefit, but I will give you my reactions to the tool and how it worked for me personally.…
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Experts Are Not Free
Just because I have experience with something and can readily give it doesn’t mean I have to or that I should. That’s hard, considering that my life purpose is to share my experiences, but there’s a reason for this pattern and I think I’ve finally gotten the lesson in it after talking to my personal…
