Law of Attraction: When Experts Fail
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Contrast.
Even people who teach the Law of Attraction and its benefits can fail miserably at it. But they do become terrific examples of how it works!
At least six months ago, a man who teaches community classes in Universal Law and writes instructional materials about it Â sold me a couple of products that were helpful to me, mainly because Â they gave me an idea of how not to structure such material. Iâ€™m not complaining about his productsâ€”knowing Â what doesnâ€™t work can be just Â as important Â as knowingÂ what does work, and his ideas were good.
Our interaction Â included a couple of telephone calls and we got to Â know each other personally. I thought it was odd that he mentioned upfront in the second phone call that heâ€™d like to go ahead and complete our transaction right then because he really needed the money. Heâ€™d had some unexpected Â bills and was reeling, trying to figure out how to pay his mortgage that month. He doesnâ€™t take credit cards, so I sent him a check that afternoon and didnâ€™t think anything else about it.
Weeks went by and I emailed him to ask for a follow-up, and he was angry. He hadnâ€™t received my check.
I was a little upset. He made it clear that he thought Iâ€™d stiffed him. The check hadnâ€™t cleared, which had surprised me since heâ€™d needed the money so badly. I gave him the date Iâ€™d sent the check and check number, but he sounded Â skeptical Â and Â mentioned Â that Â he Â was Â getting stiffed a lot. His insinuation didnâ€™t set well with me. I pay my bills. Even when Iâ€™d rather not, I pay what I owe. I told him Â Iâ€™d Â send Â him Â a Â second Â check Â and Â whichever check arrived second, tear it up.
After a week, I emailed Â to follow Â up Â with Â him Â on whether heâ€™d received the second check. He had. He hadnâ€™t notified me, when Iâ€™d been worried about my reputation with him, but yes, heâ€™d received it. To this date, the original check has never been cashed or, as far as I know, received. It never came back to me, either. Like it went into a black hole.
A month or so passed and I needed a particular product that he makes. I knew Iâ€™d have to get in line and wait my turn, so I called him to put in my order. To my surprise, he decided to go ahead and fit me in that day instead of taking a lunch hour. I told him Iâ€™d thought he needed more Â time. Â He Â said Â he Â did, Â but Â he Â really Â needed Â the money and could I drop a check in the mail to him that day? He told me that his money just wasnâ€™t flowing and he had a mortgage payment due in 10 days and he didnâ€™t know how he was going to make it happen,Â but he was using the Law of Attraction to handle his financial needs.
I dropped the check in the mail that day, asking him to let me Â know Â when it arrived Â in aboutÂ two to three days. He completed the Â product for me and sent it that afternoon.
I was Â shocked Â at Â the Â quality Â of Â it. Â He Â really Â had needed more time.
Over 10 days passedÂ and I received Â an angry email from him. When was I going to put my check in the mail to him? Heâ€™d sent the product to me on the day Iâ€™d ordered it and I hadnâ€™t fulfilled his financial needs.
I assured him Iâ€™d sent it to the correct address on that day, but I would send another check to him. That one, he did get, but I had to track him down once again to find out if it had arrived. The other check was never cashed, and never to my knowledge received.
I ended Â my Â business Â relationship Â with Â him Â at Â that point and went on to hire someone Â else to do the same job for me. At a time when he really needed the money and we might have both benefited from a business relationship.
Looking back now, I see exactly how the Law of Attraction kicked him in the shins. His focus was entirely on how broke he was and how money wasnâ€™t coming in. He used that term several times in Â our conversations. Â â€œThe money just isnâ€™t coming in right now.â€ And it didnâ€™t. The mail I sent to himâ€”using a typed label because my penmanship is crapâ€”never arrived in two instances. While I do occasionally send mail to a bad part of L.A. and have it come back months later or get stolen, it was a shock to me that two checks to the same person disappeared forever when weâ€™d had no issues with our other correspondence. But his focus was on â€œmoney not coming in right now,â€ and thatâ€™s exactly what the Law of Attraction gave him.
What a great Â lesson, Â and from Â a manÂ who actively practiced the Law of Attraction to bring prosperity into his life, only to bring the opposite.