Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Contrast.
Doing things Â as a couple Â should Â certainly Â be a fun thing, but it doesnâ€™t have to be the only avenue for enjoying yourself. Doing things in a group can be fun, too, but what if you donâ€™t have a group or the group pairs off or your group just doesnâ€™t share all of your interests?
Do you Â forgo Â new Â experiences Â simply Â because Â you have no one Â to share them with or your someone isnâ€™t interested in the same pastime? Does that make you a dull person?
One of my co-workers complains that she really wants to see a particular new movie, but she hasnâ€™t had a date in months and she canâ€™t get a group together to go with her. Me, Â I Â donâ€™t Â understand. Â She Â wonâ€™t Â go Â to Â a Â movie Â all alone. I can go alone, with my girls, or with a friend or a group of friends. Thatâ€™s a habit I got into when I was half of a couple but my other half disliked my kind of movies and I got tired of missing them.
Itâ€™s odd sometimes, sitting in a movie theater, alone, excited about the movie Iâ€™ve so been looking forward to. Couples come in, families come in, groups come in. Seldom a solo, though.
One of my favorite things to do when I donâ€™t have other Â plans Â for Â a Â weekend Â nightâ€”and Â occasionally Â a week Â nightâ€”is Â go Â out Â to Â dinner Â and Â a Â movie Â alone. Thereâ€™s a little restaurant with tasty Italian food next door to my favorite Â theaterâ€¦literally Â a 50 foot walk or less. Since I wonâ€™t drink and drive, itâ€™s perfect for a glass of Chianti with dinner and then a stroll over to the theatre. I donâ€™t do it often because Iâ€™m frequently working, but I do know how to have fun alone and enjoy my Â own company.
I wonder if this is whatâ€™s meant by the term, â€œIâ€™m dating myself.â€