Category: Grief
Posts on grief in its many forms — the acute losses, the slow ones, the ones nobody else notices. What it asks of us, what it takes from us, what it eventually leaves behind. Lived experience, not a roadmap.
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Stepping Back from Grief When Possible
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Rising. Cho Seung Hui’s killing spree at Virginia Tech is riveting the nation in ways similar to 9/11 and Katrina, and me, I’m working hard to distance myself. I have good reason to. And this time, I don’t have to be close to the grief. Since…
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Regaining a Positive Mindset
Yes, I’m having a melancholy moment. It happens. Not often, but when it does, I write through it and I’m okay. “It’s impossible to bring good things into your life and keep a positive mindset when your life is full of shit,” a woman contended in her email to me regarding the Law of…
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Where the Heart Isn’t
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. One of the saddest things I saw this past week was the emotional meltdown of an artist I’ve known for around 15 years. It’s one of those cases that make you believe in the fairytale of only one true love out there for each…
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Why All the Drama?
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. “Why does this keep happening to you?” a friend asks. “I’m glad to live a boring life!” Shannon gets the same question. Why all the drama in our lives? I can look back to a long series of drama going back over several…
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Protecting the Young: Exercise in Futility
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. My daughter and her friends just keep getting pummeled. Shannon and I have a joke. When we go for walks, I walk on the side closer to the traffic. We joke about respecting her elder versus protecting my young. From the Bookshelf Working…
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Birthday Wishes from Daddy, and Lack Thereof
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. It’s weird. Sometimes I forget that Daddy’s dead. I woke up yesterday from a half-dream and was mad and disappointed because he hadn’t acknowledged my birthday. Not that it was something he ever really did when he was alive. He left that to…
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The Adverbs of Life
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. It’s the adverbs of life that are just killing me right now. There are certain things that I want answers to. Some things, I’ve wanted answers to for a long, long time. In some cases, I know eventually I’ll get them, but I…
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Relative Strangers and Strange Relatives
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Okay, given recent painful events, I really was in serious need of hearing something hilarious. So let me just lay it on the line because I’m out of patience. I got a call tonight from my hometown about something someone said about me…
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Law of Attraction: Manifesting through Grief
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. When I regard the things we’ve manifested in our lives in the past two months, I’m amazed. And yes, that’s even with dealing with funerals and goodbyes and old issues resurfacing for a final look. As I told someone recently, every day won’t…
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Law of Attraction: Reeling in That Which Was Lost
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I think that in times of grief and loss, we send out such strong waves of energy saying “Come back!” that lots of things do come back, just not the ones we expect. With so much loss over the past couple of months,…
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Energies, Exponentially
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Some connections are harder than others to break, particularly when you don’t really want to break them. Both parties have to want to. Otherwise, you just keep re-attaching and feeling the other’s pain. I’ve noted that with a number of people in the…
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Visitation
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I’ve hardly slept at all in the past week, and only then with some assistance. It’s fits and starts and then I wake and for a split second, all is well and then I remember what’s happened and the big hole that burns…
