Tag: loss
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Speak of the Dead
When a loved one dies, we are often crushed by the realization that life goes on without them. It’s no different when someone is “dead” to us, whatever the reason may be. It’s just not as obvious because we assume they still live on elsewhere, not just in our memory. We tend to remember the…
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Why I Really Don’t Miss Daddy So Much
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Rising. It’s weird how I sometimes forget that Daddy’s dead. I don’t miss him. I really don’t. Some people, judgmental ones who don’t really know the situation and some who do but are judgmental stone-throwing bitches anyway, would probably say not missing him makes me a…
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Where the Heart Isn’t
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. One of the saddest things I saw this past week was the emotional meltdown of an artist I’ve known for around 15 years. It’s one of those cases that make you believe in the fairytale of only one true love out there for each…
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Protecting the Young: Exercise in Futility
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. My daughter and her friends just keep getting pummeled. Shannon and I have a joke. When we go for walks, I walk on the side closer to the traffic. We joke about respecting her elder versus protecting my young. From the Bookshelf Working…
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Birthday Wishes from Daddy, and Lack Thereof
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. It’s weird. Sometimes I forget that Daddy’s dead. I woke up yesterday from a half-dream and was mad and disappointed because he hadn’t acknowledged my birthday. Not that it was something he ever really did when he was alive. He left that to…
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Law of Attraction: Manifesting through Grief
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. When I regard the things we’ve manifested in our lives in the past two months, I’m amazed. And yes, that’s even with dealing with funerals and goodbyes and old issues resurfacing for a final look. As I told someone recently, every day won’t…
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Law of Attraction: Reeling in That Which Was Lost
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I think that in times of grief and loss, we send out such strong waves of energy saying “Come back!” that lots of things do come back, just not the ones we expect. With so much loss over the past couple of months,…
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Visitation
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I’ve hardly slept at all in the past week, and only then with some assistance. It’s fits and starts and then I wake and for a split second, all is well and then I remember what’s happened and the big hole that burns…
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The Best Course of Action
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Shannon is a Goddess-send to me right now. She and I have been through a lot of grief over the past six months—breakups, deaths, disruption, a lot of loss. In spite of spending the evening with her and a tow truck, she indulged…
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Devastated
Sometimes I feel like I should crawl into a hole and never attempt to have a relationship of any type with anybody. Sometimes…. Well, probably more than just sometimes. Like it would be best if I didn’t have any feelings at all because, damn it, feelings just seem to get in the way. From the…
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“I Can Tell You Anything” Has Consequences
Several months ago, I lost a good friend. It was very sudden, very unexpected. Like a death. I don’t talk about it. I don’t know what to say about it. I still don’t know exactly what happened. As for why, I’m trying to look at it in that big-picture sort of way that says we…
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Do I Impact You?
If you miss someone or something, it simply means they had an impact on your life. It’s an honor to be missed—absence, more than anything else, can show how connected we are to someone or something, even if we didn’t realize it. When they’re gone, they leave a gap, even if we choose to fill…
