Month: March 2010
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Don’t Create Rooms Full of Anger and Hurt
Home office photos copyrighted by Lorna Tedder; all rights reserved. I have a spare bedroom I’m painting and refurbishing so that it’ll make a beautiful guest room when my daughter is home from college or has friends over. I didn’t finish it earlier in the year when I was too busy, but I’ve had plenty…
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Showing your Injuries
When someone I dislike does something to hurt me, especially intentionally, I want to bare my teeth and claws and think nothing of going for the jugular. If they do something to someone I care about, I’ll shred them without thinking. When someone I care about does something to hurt me, intentional or not, my…
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Where Others Fail to Do You In, the Self-Saboteur Takes Over
From the upcoming book, 23 Ways I Screwed Up My Life with the Law of Attraction—and How I Fixed It It’s easy to blame all the lying, cheating, mean bastards out there, but if they’re not bringing us down every chance they get, don’t worry: we’ll do it to ourselves. There’s a little bit—or a…
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Blessing in Disguise: A Little Favor from the Law of Attraction
I was somewhat mortified (to put it mildly) when my 17-year-old announced that she was looking up men from my past on Facebook and friending them. They were all men I’d cared for at one time or another and she had, too, which is why she was concerned about how they’re doing now. Some of…
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The Way Life Should Be: Full of Passion
I’m excited. But honestly, I think everything should be exciting. I think that if you don’t feel excited about your work, your hobbies, or the person you’re with, then you should turn your attention to something or someone you can feel passionate about. I’ve just added a few creative passions back into my life after…
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Increase Creativity to Relieve Time Management Stress in Analytical Jobs
Shannon is on the verge of 20, a college senior in Psychology, and stressed to the max. She carries a heavy course load, works 20 hours a week in a counseling clinic, and is focusing on complicated research projects in sociology and psychology while preparing her grad school admissions packages. So how to combat the…
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My Kingdom for an Honest Man!
I have developed a tremendous appreciation for honest men. Not honesty wielded as a weapon or as a shield but more like a cup of clear water for a thirsty woman. Relationships are the best place to see honesty in action—and the different interpretations of honesty and the different rationales for deception. Abuse is never…
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Oops, I Forgot to Re-set my Goals!
I’m stunned that I forgot to set goals. That’s so unlike me. Goals are the guideposts to the future and without them, I tend to amble off the path. One of the benefits of monthly sessions with a life coach is that they keep me on-track in my busy life and help me to fine-tune…
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The Opportunity of Parenthood
It’s said that, if you have children, you get to see the world through their eyes. But it’s not so much a different perspective as a huge opportunity to rewrite your own childhood. Most people I know had terrible childhoods. It’s rare to find someone who had two loving parents–whether married or not–and made it…
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Awaiting the Platypus Dawn
Two months ago, I participated in some “spiritual work” with some trusted spiritual leaders who always have an interesting point of view. I very much enjoy these sessions where I am a student rather than a teacher and where I am challenged to see things in a new way. I’m a big believer in continued…
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The Passionate Queen of Wands
Originally published in Third Degree Curves “Oh,” he says, picking up the Tarot card. He’s incredibly gifted, yet this is a new experience for him. He’s never seen these cards before, but I think they’re pretty and I share them to get his opinion. “The Lovers are a combination of the Prince of Cups and…
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When Not to Keep a Secret
Keeping secrets can be dangerous. It’s not that they can’t be kept, but if they’re kept at a price, then that price tends to manifest into something harmful. Though I’m fairly open myself and have very few secrets, I still know and keep many secrets that aren’t harmful to me, but there’s a difference in…
