Tag: marriage
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If You Don’t Trust Him, Marry Him?
I am conducting experiments with Trust. Or rather, it is conducting experiments with me. What I cannot believe is how women who don’t trust their men marry themas quickly as they can, as if that’s some sort of guarantee that behaviors will change after the vows. Do they really believe that? I’m guessing not, given…
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Exes, Marriage, and Karma
I’ve observed that karma usually has a special way of working out for people who lie or cheat—or lie and cheat. It’s called marriage. At the time of a break-up, the prospect of a lover marrying someone else—whether in a few months or few years–generally is met with despair. But I’ve learned differently. I’ve actually…
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Roads Not Taken
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. I wonder what he’s doing now or where he is. I haven’t thought of him in years. I’m not even sure I’d remember what he looked like, except that he had brown hair, green eyes, and was very muscular. He was an engineer who…
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The Lovers Card
I’m trying to explain to my daughter why even meeting a love interest is harder over 40 than it was at 18. People acquire lots of baggage in the interim—debts, children, bankruptcies, alcohol afflictions, trauma, criminal records…wives. Okay, yes, I admit that when I meet anyone even remotely interesting, the first thing I do is…
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Rethinking Marriage and Commitment
To my surprise, I’m finding myself rethinking my views on marriage and what it really means from an emotional and legal standpoint. It shouldn’t be a surprise, though. I knew last fall that 2007 would have a heavy focus for me on questioning my values, particular in regard to the ethics of relating, monogamy, commitment,…
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“Take My Husband—Please”
A woman I work with just offered me her husband. For sex. I’m not sure what to say. It was one of those out-of-the-blue things that began with “I know you’re divorced and if you don’t have a boyfriend, I’d like to do you a favor.” Yeah. One of those things. From the Bookshelf A…
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Private vs Discreet
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Life in the Third Degree. Discreet relationship, my ass! I wouldn’t mind a private relationship, but there’s a big difference between a private relationship and a discreet one, usually the marital status of one or both parties. What is with these married men asking me out?! I’m divorced,…
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Watching the Sun Rise, Alone But Not
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Life in the Third Degree. It’s four o’clock in the morning, and I’m talking about marriage with a man I don’t intend to marry. There’s no involvement between us other than friendship, just a need to discuss our demons from the safety of our separate homes and the…
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Uranian Planets: Hades and Juno and Relationship Break-Ups (Applied Astrology)
Astrology is my hobby, and I love learning new things. I’m a big fan of asteroids and now, thanks to astrologer Eileen Nauman’s articles on the Trans-Neptune Planets, aka the Uranians, I’ve been playing around with my chart and the charts of family and friends to see how the Uranians show up. And I’m seeing…
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Tarot: Card for Love and Innocence
Twice in the past month, I’ve drawn the Two of Cups. It’s one of the most beautiful cards in my Arthurian Tarot deck. A man and woman stand together aboard a dragon-faced ship, locked in a deep embrace, her head against his chest, his hand curling around her head. They are in love, and-I think-so…
