Category: Sexuality
Posts on the sexual self — desire, intimacy, embodiment, and the relationship between sexual life and the rest of who we are.
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How to Survive the Worst Year of Your Life
“How do I survive the worst year of my life?” a young friend asked, around two months after a bad breakup. She wanted to know because it appeared to her that I’d one day snapped my fingers or taken a magic pill and all my heartaches had disappeared overnight. They didn’t. They haven’t. They’re still…
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The Best Aphrodisiac
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. For me, creativity is the best aphrodisiac. I finished a major project, got a little sleep, and then found myself thinking, hmmm, time to socialize? Any men worth striking up a conversation with? From the Bookshelf Vertex, Anti-Vertex, and the Fated Path in Astrology…
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Observations on Sex, Life, and Rock-n-Roll (but Mostly Sex)
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. Observations…. – Not all sex toys are dishwasher safe. From the Bookshelf Give Your Life Direction — 23 life-coaching tips to get unstuck and moving again. Available direct from the author → – Thanks to the girls’ not keeping the puppy out of the…
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Doors, Elevators, and Sex
I raced for the third elevator, the one most recently repaired in my office building, thinking about how I often have dreams of long hallways with several doors of opportunity open and waiting for me if I should choose to walk through. The elevator door closed before I could launch myself into a rather unprofessional…
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Daily Life…Observations
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. I feel like my root chakra has been re-activated. My sexuality is re-awakening but in strange new ways. Now if there were only someone I wanted, LOL! I’m honoring the Law of Eternal Unfulfillment. I cannot possibly do all things at once, be…
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Object Lessons
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. In the past, I always prided myself on not objectifying people, men in particular. That’s changing. In the past, I always looked at the person, but now I’m learning a new facet. Objectification is not something I’m unfamiliar with. I distinctly remember discovering…
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Serious Matters: The Little Girl with the Tulip
I stand on the astral, and the second I know where I am, I am moving. Forward. Long strides. Set jaw. Only fools would try to stop me. I am as I always am on the astral-taller, leaner, long brown hair flowing behind me, long wisps of white fabric about my body and ankles, curling…
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Revealing Conversations and Submissive Men
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Truth. Blame it on the moon in Scorpio, but I had a rather enlightening conversation yesterday with an old friend who recently confessed that he’s a submissive and has been living the life of his choice for the past decade. I’ll disguise his description and…
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Different Strokings
I meet such interesting people, and the bizarre thing is that so many of these people, I’ve known for years. I simply didn’t know that they had so many unusual and fun secrets. Case in point, the male friend from long ago who confesses that he’s a sexual submissive, 24/7. He proudly introduces me to…
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Biology 101
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree. I’m not sure that understanding Biology 101 makes it any easier emotionally. Or if maybe we’re just all damned but keep trying to pretend humans are something other than animals. In putting together the first Spilled Candy newsletter I’ve put out in quite…
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“Take My Husband—Please”
A woman I work with just offered me her husband. For sex. I’m not sure what to say. It was one of those out-of-the-blue things that began with “I know you’re divorced and if you don’t have a boyfriend, I’d like to do you a favor.” Yeah. One of those things. From the Bookshelf A…
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Little Conversations
I’ve known Mady for less than three months, and already he’s worming his way into my heart, especially in the past couple of weeks when futile seems to be the best adjective to describe my relationships with men in general. I can feel his affection for me, his aura opening up when he’s near. …
