Tag: independence
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Why Support Is Important (Even If You Don’t Need It)
I learned a long time ago—mainly as a child watching my mother—to be self-sufficient, to need no one. That lesson was something I relied upon heavily when I started my life over as a single mom. I’m still rabid about being able to take care of myself and terribly awkward about asking for help. I…
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What I Want for Mother’s Day
What I want for Mother’s Day this year is…well, not necessarily for Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day is the next “holiday” for gift-getting, and why do I think I need a holiday for this? I want a honey-to-do. Well, that didn’t sound quite right either. Okay, true, but…blush…. I’ll start over. From the Bookshelf A Reverence…
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Better Her Than Me!
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree and Rising. A close friend of mine in North Alabama has just turned 30, and her mother is desperate to find her a man. Any man. Better her than me! Apparently, if my friend doesn’t find a man within the next 6 months, she’ll be ripe…
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Men Who Smother… and the Women Who Run from Them
So I’m out of town for a few days. I put an out-of-office response on my email that says, pretty much, I’m out of town for a few days and won’t be checking my email. I’ll get back with you when I get back. How hard is this to understand? From the Bookshelf Vertex, Anti-Vertex,…
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The Time Sink Also Known as Dating
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. The thing I really hate about dating? It’s such a time sink. I’m not talking about investing in a relationship where the rewards will hopefully be joy and growth, but just the pre-screening process of figuring out if you even want to spend…
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Confession Time
I have something to confess that I’ve never said before, at least not in this way. From the Bookshelf Unapologetically Happy — 23 lessons from a life reimagined, and your permission slip to find happiness on your own terms. Available direct from the author → There is a woman I’ve been afraid of for a…
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I Run My Household (or Does It Run Me?)
Yay! I’ve been productive at home and I have things to show for it! Of course, you can’t tell that by looking at my house. It’s completely trashed right now, what with furniture moved all over the place and stuff stacked to the ceiling and other stuff dusty from the repair work. But it’s done.…
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Looking for a Man with Something to Offer
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree. I went off on a colleague today. I’d reached my limit, and if she didn’t know it before, she does now. The subject? Who I’m dating…or not. Yeah. Again. What’s that, the third time this month? From the Bookshelf A Reverence for Trees…
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Screwdriver Slinger?
Yesterday, a male reader wrote me about an old entry from my archives, one where I talked about a trip to the hardware store to buy an axe and the resulting Pavlovian response of the men I encountered there. He writes, “The fact that you were at a hardware store, with normal clothes and a…
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“You Complete Me” – Not
It’s a Saturday night and I’m in the midst of a Life-Death-and-the-Universe conversation with friends. I’m curled up on the sofa, bare feet under me. The lights are down low, and a tea light anointed with rose oil burns on the altar with the intent that I might love others for the gold that they…
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My Idea of Profanity
In my world, there are three phrases that are forbidden: From the Bookshelf Give Your Life Direction — 23 life-coaching tips to get unstuck and moving again. Available direct from the author → “You need to….” I can live the rest of my life without ever hearing this one again. It’s one of those phrases…
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Wanted: Goddess Consort
When it comes to romantic relationships, I like to think of myself as a Goddess, though I suppose I’m really more of a Trinity of Goddesses. I’m not so much Kali or Aphrodite, and I’m definitely not a submissive Goddess. Not to mix pantheons, but I’m part Greek Athena, the war strategist and intellectual; I’m…
