My Idea of Profanity
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In my world, there are three phrases that are forbidden:
“You need to….”
I can live the rest of my life without ever hearing this one again. It’s one of those phrases that seems to spew from the lips of controlling people, and I had quite enough of it when I transitioned out of a marriage and into independence. Everybody had a piece of advice for me, and while there are many ways to do one thing, the advice-givers always thought their way was the only way and insisted that I “needed” to do it their way. I rarely hear this phrase applied to me anymore, but when I do, it rankles. I don’t like people telling me what I need, especially people who don’t really know me—or do but want to change me….
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