Tag: dating
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How to Tell What a Stranger (or First Date) Is Insecure About
A night-time walk by the marsh…full moon…fireflies…cat-tails. Photo by Lorna Tedder With most strangers, you can nod and be polite and never have to find out anything more about them, let alone where their insecurities lie. If you have to work with a stranger for an extended period of time or endure a first date…
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The Ball’s in his Court?
Photo credit by Isobel T; creative commons license. I’ve been divorced long enough that few people tell me what to do anymore, or how to do it, or –heaven forbid—how to play the game. Maybe they grew tired of it. Or maybe it was the less willing ear I give them now, accompanied by plenty…
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Attracting the Wrong Kind of People, and Why
Photo credit by -RobW-; creative commons license From the upcoming book, 23 Ways I Screwed Up My Life with the Law of Attraction—and How I Fixed It I had a date with a man I can’t get out of my head. Normally, that would be a wonderful thing because—normally–there would be something pleasantly fascinating about…
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Attracting a Happy Man (aka, the Craigslist Dating Experiment)
Why is this man trying to cut off his tongue with his fingers? Just another potential date from Craigslist…. Even more so than easy money, people want to use the Law of Attraction to attract a special someone. They usually do, even when they get less than optimal results (see above photo for an example).…
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Don’t Worry about People from Your Past
Photo credit by Corey Templeton; creative commons license “There comes a time in your life when you realize who will always matter, who does matter, and who never did. So don’t worry about people from your past; there’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.” –anonymous When I first read the…
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Is Everyone 85% Your Perfect Match?
Photo by toastyken; creative commons license. In the almost 4 years I’ve been divorced, I’ve been told repeatedly that I’m too picky. Last month, I was told that in an entirely different way by a Law of Attraction guru. “You’re not finding a romantic partner because you’re focusing on the 15% of differences…
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These Men Are Gifts
Photo by Abhi Ryan; creative commons license. “In your search for love, you’ve helped a lot of people,” my daughter says as we walk along the fields of the farm in Georgia where we’ve evacuated for Hurricane Gustav. She’s been away at college for several weeks, so I fill her in on my suddenly very…
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My Generation Is from Another Country
“So,” he whispers over the phone in a voice like melted chocolate, “how long have you lived here?” I can imagine his eyes glinting in the starlight, darker than sin and even fuller, and…he has no idea that I used to write romance novels. He’s the epitome of the heroes I used to write about,…
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3 Nuggets of Truth: Secrets, Facades, and Doubt
Photo by sylvar; creative commons license. “Just watch what happens next,” my angels and spirit guides tell me. “Just watch how this all unfolds.” That whisper of intuition in my ear in the middle of the night is probably the only thing that keeps me from running away, screaming, from the situation I’ve been observing…
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Putting the Happily in Ever After
Photo by Euromagic; creative commons license I’ve really been paying attention to how most people tend to expect the worst and how some of the more positive and happy people I know either 1. Actively look for the best or 2. Just stay “open” and see what happens. The polarity has been striking recently,…