Tag: Relationships
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Sure, If You Love Something, Set It Free…but Do You Wait for It to Come Back?
*** I’ve always hated Jonathon Livingston Seagull. Irrational, I know, but the Richard Bach book came out around the time I was in the fourth grade, and I remember my teacher reading it to the class and gently (she thought) drilling into us that “If you love something, set it free: if it comes back…
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Why Support Is Important (Even If You Don’t Need It)
I learned a long time ago—mainly as a child watching my mother—to be self-sufficient, to need no one. That lesson was something I relied upon heavily when I started my life over as a single mom. I’m still rabid about being able to take care of myself and terribly awkward about asking for help. I…
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A Seasonal Review: What Were the Most Satisfying Moments of Autumn 2010?
Back on the 24th of August, I emulated my dear friend Maggie Shayne and posted a seasonal review of the summer–not any of the hardships or turbulence but the most satisfying moments of the summer. Now that Autumn has passed and the frigid Florida weather has arrived (yes, it’s dipped several times into the low…
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When You’re Older…and Everyone Disapproves of Your New Love
Granddaddy’s been gone for over 15 years, but if he were alive tonight at 105, I’d want to ask his relationship advice. Not about a romantic relationship but about how to deal with disapproval of a romantic relationship that has been bringing me a lot of joy amongst the rollercoaster epiphanies. Of course, I…
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The Dark Night of the Soul
The Dark Night of the Soul is a rather ominous term for something that happens in some lives, but not all. I believe that some people actually make it through their entire existence on the planet without encountering anything as dark and devastating as a Dark Night. Those who do–and survive–are forever changed. The term…
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The Biggest Epiphany of All: Attracting Love–and More–into Your Life
My back patio at sunset, on a beautiful October day. The last six weeks have been full of epiphanies, but I’ve kept them mostly to myself or shared them with a very limited number of people rather than here. They’ve been mainly for me, just me–at least while I’ve been sorting through them to find…
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The Best Reason People You Loved Aren’t Still in Your Life
Photo of a package of glasses on a store shelf. It’s said that there’s a reason that people from your past didn’t make it to the future. Sometimes, in hindsight, you can see that the reason was a very positive one. I lounged in a hotel room over an hour from home, waiting to hear…
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When Bad Things Return to Good People
The three of us Law-of-Attractioners were talking about how people who aren’t good for us, when we choose not to be with them any longer, just seem to not be around so much. The transition to the “not-so-much” usually takes more than a few minutes, though. In some cases, it’s months. In other cases, even…
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Exes, Marriage, and Karma
I’ve observed that karma usually has a special way of working out for people who lie or cheat—or lie and cheat. It’s called marriage. At the time of a break-up, the prospect of a lover marrying someone else—whether in a few months or few years–generally is met with despair. But I’ve learned differently. I’ve actually…
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As Good as your Word: Anything You Say Can and Will Be Held Against You
I believe that a person’s word should be good enough. I refuse to put my hand on a Bible and swear to tell the truth. I refuse to swear to tell the truth, period. I believe that my word is good enough. In fact, I find the act of having to “swear” I’m telling the…
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Squished Bread, Scrambled Eggs, and Mercury in Retrograde
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree. Mercury’s in retrograde again. That comes too often, doesn’t it? Revisits and relooks and problems with communication, transportation, and computers. Some things have shifted around this past week. It reminds me of throwing groceries in the back of the car and getting home…
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I Am So Fucked but Let Me Document It Lest I Forget or Don’t Believe It Later
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree. Is it going to be like this with every man I form a connection with? And I’m not talking about sex. This did happen with my no-sex-but-really-wanted-to guy and did not happen, for example, with the boy I was with a while back.…
