When Bad Things Return to Good People
We happened upon this little reminder at Disneyworld. Photo by Lorna Tedder; all rights reserved.
The three of us Law-of-Attractioners were talking about how people who aren’t good for us, when we choose not to be with them any longer, just seem to not be around so much. The transition to the “not-so-much” usually takes more than a few minutes, though. In some cases, it’s months. In other cases, even years.
I’ve been accused of cutting people out of my life on a whim. To me, it isn’t a whim. It only seems that way to people who haven’t been observant enough to notice my efforts. By that point, I’ve usually exhausted all measures to get along or either discovered that the person I’m cutting out is so unethical that I cannot abide their presence any longer. When I’ve had enough, I’ve had enough and it’s over.
Sometimes, they don’t want to go. There’s nothing worse than deciding you are done with a relationship and want nothing else to do with it and the other party just won’t let go. They keep texting, emailing, calling. In short, they have to be in control and will do whatever it takes to be the one in control, sometimes even so they can get into control just long enough to be the rejecter rather than the rejected.
Eventually, the more you focus on new stuff,
exciting stuff, any other stuff than that relationship, they fade away. They leave you alone. They move away. They find someone else, at least for a little while. The wavelengths you haven’t been on in a while further separate, and you begin to bring wondrous new things into your life.
So how is it bad people (or people who are bad for you) re-appear when you least expect it? The latest female diversion is out of town or they’d had an argument and wham—right back and expecting everything to be the same as it once was.
I really can’t answer the question of how we attract such past-tense experiences and people back into our lives when we’ve changed our lives so much for the better. For me, it seems always to be a shock but, at the same time, a beautiful reminder of what’s changed. Of the lack of negativity that surrounded my life then. Of the thickets of lies I had to machete my way through. Of how much better life is without their negativity, manipulations, attitudes.
It’s a measuring stick, I suppose. I forget sometimes how good life is…or maybe how bad it once was. The Law of Polarity, which means you need to know the opposite to understand something truly. When old things I thought I’d drummed out of my life reappear, once I catch my breath, I usually realize that the contrast is a great way to brighten my present and future.