Flat Out: Youâ€™re Wrong
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree.
No. What has happened is not reason to â€œexpect nothing.â€ Grief and loss on my part do not mean you were â€œright.â€ My life is not an argument for your entertainment, nor should it be your hobby.
I am still working toward manifesting joy in my life, and I still know what I want.Â This is a bump, a very big bump, in the roadÂ and itâ€™ll take time to work through, but itâ€™s not â€œproofâ€ that my best course is to â€œexpect nothingâ€ out of life, to lower my standards and expectations and accept whatever (law of attractionly) items/events/people/situations,Â thatÂ are of lower standards and expectations, may come. Because expecting crap will certainly bring it. And expecting nothing will certainly bring it. And Iâ€™ve had enough of the crap and Iâ€™ve had enough of the nothing.
Manifesting and manipulating are two different things. Manifesting is directed at the end resultâ€”joy, prosperity, whateverâ€”and manipulating is directed at making it happen exactly your way and controlling every detail through guilt, pushing, threatening, whatever you need to get your way. If Iâ€™m â€œexpecting nothing,â€ then that certainly leaves a wide open door for someone elseâ€™s manipulation to come into play. I like to let people be who they are and do their own thing (as much as I can), so this is a danger in manifesting that kind of free-being world because not everyone will work to create that which is in agreement with the world I want. And thatâ€™s the paradox of manifesting an environment where everyone can be who they really are. Voids get filled, one way or another.
So Iâ€™m not â€œexpecting nothingâ€ and Iâ€™m not seeing the â€œerrors of my waysâ€ for not living my life as you think I should and are so control-freakingly determined to see me do. I am expecting everything and most of all, Iâ€™m expecting miracles and Iâ€™m allowing them to come.
However, if you choose to live your life by the theme of expecting â€œnothingâ€ for yourselfâ€”and for meâ€” then please, by all means, go do it. Just do it some place far from me.