Tag: divorce
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Divorce on Facebook: the Usual Reason Marriages Break Up
The sad thing is that some of these couples might actually be able to work things out or at least part amicably if their Facebook friends and family would stay out of it and stop bringing more hostility into an already bad situation. Divorce on Facebook turns into a divorce by Facebook, often. Mutual friends…
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The Emotional Energy of Your Space: Empty Nests, Divorced Bedrooms, and Baby’s Rooms
Of course, people re-arrange rooms when a relationship breaks up or a child leaves home…or a relationship solidifies into shared space or a new addition is welcomed into the family! Spaces fill up with energy, usually the energy of the person who occupied it or with the energy of events that occurred there. Reclaiming the…
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The Dark Night of the Soul
The Dark Night of the Soul is a rather ominous term for something that happens in some lives, but not all. I believe that some people actually make it through their entire existence on the planet without encountering anything as dark and devastating as a Dark Night. Those who do–and survive–are forever changed. The term…
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Observation on Other Couples
This is an observation made by the divorce lawyer for the guy I was seeing—and no, I had nothing to do with his divorce. In criminal court, you see the worst of society at their very best. They’re dressed up and paraded around and on their best behavior. From the Bookshelf A Reverence for Trees…
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Something to Offer
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree. I don’t remember ever hearing a man say aloud what he felt in terms of what he had to offer a relationship with me…until these past few years. It seems that it was always about what I had to offer—a wife who worked…
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Divorcing Your Financial Future
Two female friends are going through divorces right now. They left their husbands not for other men but for their own physical and mental health. They’ve tried to leave their spouses many times before but were always “guilted” or intimidated into staying. One was arrested a few times for abusing her policeman husband by allegedly…
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You Are Free to Go
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree. Maybe it’s the fact that my firstborn will be leaving the nest this time next year. Or maybe it’s just a drug-induced epiphany from the allergy meds that are helping me fight the dust and smoke that seem to be consuming the other…
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Furious
I am fit to be tied, and not in a fun way either. I am so freaking pissed. Instead of doing anything fun tonight, I decide to wrap up one last project and check on my tax refund…still MIA. Meanwhile, I download my 2006 edition of my tax software while I’m waiting and see right…
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A Bearable Lightness of Being
Not getting slammed for a change While everyone else seems to be crashing around me, I’m not having a bad time. Maybe I’ve done my share for the past few years (at least definitely since March of 2005!) and the meaner stars in the sky are focusing on other people right now. I understand the…
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Resurrecting Aphrodite
Sometimes a-ha moments just bubble up out of the subconscious mind at the strangest moments. Like between the strawberries and the sweet potatoes. I can’t sleep and there’s no food in the house because I spent the day working and the evening…doing other stuff that wasn’t worth doing. From the Bookshelf A Reverence for Trees…
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Failure to Heal
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves. “Some people can’t be healed.” I re-read the statement from a friend who moved a year ago. I don’t want to believe that, but it resonates, perhaps because yesterday I heard an NPR story about terminally ill children and some of the medical practices pursued…
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Growing Up?
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves. Ah, synchronicity. My email folders were so full that I wasn’t allowed to send another message until I cleaned out the old stuff. So what should I find in a massive deletion of ancient emails but an exchange with the post-divorce counselor whose session notes…
