Tag: codependency
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Light Bearers
Done. A few hours of intense spiritual work is always a bit of a relief for me. Let’s just say that I’ve been divining for the summer. I’ve had a little light shed for myself on the Ten of Pents romance and its abrupt halt, and it was as I suspected. Your children can rock…
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The Dangers of Working with Saviors
Epiphanies always amaze me, but then, that’s what an epiphany is supposed to do, right? Surprise, amaze, give you a “doh!” moment? It’s not late-breaking news to see someone cut others down or sabotage their efforts to make themselves look good. I’ve seen plenty of that in my career as well as elsewhere, but usually…
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Law of Attraction Meanies
I finally figured out what makes me so disapproving of some of the Law of Attraction teachers I’ve encountered (other than the spammers who read one post of my 2000-post journal and jump to conclusions). Seriously, this is a Cyndi Lauper Girls-just-wanna-have-fun-video palm slap to the forehead. I understand the hot-button connection. When I realized…
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Unconditional Love and Sneaking through the Woods with a Toilet Lid
Featured Book: How to Attract Someone Back into Your Life Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree. Everyone talks about unconditional love. Practicing it is something that comes naturally to certain types of people, and those types get really tired of lectures from people who don’t seem to believe that…
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Failure to Heal
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves. “Some people can’t be healed.” I re-read the statement from a friend who moved a year ago. I don’t want to believe that, but it resonates, perhaps because yesterday I heard an NPR story about terminally ill children and some of the medical practices pursued…
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Transitions & Mid-Life (Crisis) Transformations
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree. All this pain is about my transition. This, I know. Doesn’t make it any easier, but at least I recognize it. Six months ago today, AngelSu told me that yes, some things in my life were being slowed down and prevented, ground to…
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And This Is What I Don’t Want
The old man sits in his chair, sleeping while the TV is on loud enough to be heard clearly in any corner of the house and most of corners of the two-acre garden beyond the barn out back. But he is sleeping, and his wife is grateful. She’d prefer a different TV show, perhaps a…
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Milestone
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree. I heard someone say that forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past. I’m not sure if what I’m feeling tonight is forgiveness. It feels more like…understanding. So here I sit in the wee hours of the morning, bawling my eyes…
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The Policy of Truth
Shannon and Lorna, Thanksgiving 2006 in Destin– where will we be this year for Thanksgiving?! “You had something to hide; Should have hidden it, shouldn’t you? Now you’re not satisfied With what you’re being put through.” — Depeche Mode’s “Policy of Truth” Many years ago, I had a friend who had based most of his…
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When Self-Improvement Fails to Improve
Self-portrait exercise–looking at myself in different ways. Sometimes, people do not improve. That’s a hard thing for me to recognize because I’m an idealist, and I’d really love to think that people who embark on self-improvement–and most people at least say they’re trying to better themselves–actually make a little bit of headway. I guess the…
