Dating the Mentally Ill
Mama always told me, when I was a teenager, “They’re best to you while they’re courting you.” It was a warning against all men, but she didn’t mean it as a misandrist attack. She’d had…
3 Spiritual Reasons I Finally Quit Online Dating
This week, my online dating site subscription runs out. I’m not renewing. I decided that about four months ago when I put my profile on private and began the wait to make sure they don’t…
What Is Epic Love…and Why It Eludes Me
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about…epic love. Or true love. Probably because two friends of mine seem to talk about it quite a lot: one, who lost his epic love years ago, and…
Learning Something from Men Who Aren’t Dirtbags
I want to say thank you. Thank you to the men in my life who aren’t dirtbags. Lest you think I’m being a misandrist, I really don’t have a general hatred for all men, but…
Best Partners: First Followers
This week, I was introduced to the concept of First Followers, for the first time. In essence, a leader may look ridiculous to the general public but when the first person has the courage to…
The Aftermath of Breaking Patterns
Just because we’ve broken an old pattern does not mean that it isn’t still there, even if it’s only broken shards reflecting the past and still capable of cutting us deeply. Now we have to…
Energy Exchange: The Imperative Need in Any Relationship
Energy exchange. Not a common phrase but fitting. What I need in any relationship is simple: reciprocity. By “relationships,” I mean any relationship–business or personal, romantic or platonic, social or family, employer or employee,…
When Will True Love Come? What “Work on Yourself” Really Means
People often tell the broken-hearted to “Take a break” from looking for true love and “Work on yourself.” I admit that I’ve offered that advice to others, particularly to women who’ve centered their lives around…
Survival for the Recovering Codependent
Here’s a big secret…or maybe not. Recently I’ve had some pretty harsh things to say, in both public and private posts, about alcoholics, addicts, people who don’t take responsibility for their actions, etc. I’ll explain…
When Unconditional Love Just Isn’t Enough
This past year has certainly been a season for understanding unconditional love and boundaries, however painful as it may have been. But it’s also been a time for me of healing and understanding things…
