Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree.
As of lunch today, I am woefully disheartened. It seems that there are no men left that I would give a second look. The good ones are all taken.
Which brings me to a question Iâ€™ve asked before and never really gotten an answer to: Is it possible for a man to be faithful or even semi-faithful to the woman he loves…or is it futile?
Am I being stupidly idealistic? Completely unrealistic in the world we live in where Internet sex-and-meet-up sites are rampant and â€œrunning to the grocery store for milk and Iâ€™ll be back in 20 minutes, honeyâ€ means something entirely different these days?
I see men everywhere who are married or taken (I wonâ€™t say committed, and Iâ€™m not talking about openly polyamorous relationships) but they have a string of lovers on the side and plenty of excuses as to why. And ironically, men who tell me how much they have in common with me and how little their wives understand them usually have nothing at all in common with me. If their wives really donâ€™t understand them, I want to say, â€œStop faking it and get out of the marriage.â€ But these men never seem shattered that theyâ€™re misunderstoodâ€”it always comes across as â€œpoor little me…Iâ€™m so deprived.â€
Grown men with libidos donâ€™t seem stay single for long. They fill the void as soon as possible. And then, it seems, spend the rest of their lives looking for something they donâ€™t have.
Gaaaaah. I think Iâ€™ll just go back into my cave now. This happens every time I poke my head out and check the relationship weather.
I know, I know. Not every man is like that, and Iâ€™ll feel better about it in a few hours. Itâ€™s just that…well, you see, all the married and taken guys out there who keep pursuing me aggressively just make me pull my tentacles back inside and wonder about the rest of the men in the world and whether any of them are different.
Itâ€™s been a really lousy day. At the moment, Iâ€™d just be thrilled to talk to any man who isnâ€™t pond scum.