For many of us—especially those of us raised in an environment of real or imagined scarcity—getting into a mindset of abundance and prosperity is a real milestone on our spiritual journey. Reaching that peak is a true celebration, yet we can fall off that peak and back onto a pit of impoverished feelings rather quickly…if we’re not careful.
In keeping an attitude of prosperity, we must either surround ourselves with others who have mindsets of abundance or we must make sure we don’t lose our focus on and thankfulness for the prosperity we enjoy.
To demonstrate, here’s how my relationships have affected my own ability to attract prosperity.
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My parents and family:
I’m one of those people who was raised in a mindset of poverty. If we did have anything of material prosperity, then there was pressure to give it away. This came from our religious beliefs that poor men got into heaven and charity equaled love and spirituality. My family had plenty of stories of “good women” who “would give away their last dime to help someone else.” This attitude didn’t apply just to material resources but also time and desires. It came with a ready-made sense of self-sacrifice, that you could never have what you really wanted, and that you’d always have to make some great sacrifice to have even part of what you really wanted.
My marriage:
My two-decade marriage, while materially prosperous, was emotionally impoverished and I never felt I had enough of anything—time, money, love, happiness. My salary as a professional grew quite nicely and yet, I had no idea of my worth. I never felt I made enough money and I felt that any of the things that made me happy were burdens on my family, especially financially. Even when we were paying more in taxes than my annual gross salary, I still felt poor.
When I divorced, I was terrified. I was so buried in my mindset of scarcity that I had no idea if I could make it on my own. I figured I’d never be able to afford a haircut or a modest dinner out again. But after my divorce, that began to change and I started feeling prosperous for the first time. Part of this was that I’d always let other people tell me how to spend my money and, if it was for something I wanted to do that they didn’t value, the answer was usually no. Now I no longer “had to ask permission” to enjoy any of my earnings. I began to feel prosperous, though I was still careful with my money.
Prosperous men:
When I began dating again, it was mostly professional men. I dated several physicians […]
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