Consuming Negativity: Perhaps the Best Reason of All to Eat at Home
Photo byÂ Scott Ableman
When I was first introduced to Feng Shui in the mid-90â€™s, I was told by an expert that I should place mirrors behind the stove to reflect the energy I put into the food I cook.Â Iâ€™ve heard other expertsâ€™ reasoning since then, and though it varies, it always comes back to the cook being happy.Â I know a lot more about energy now than I did over a decade ago, and I know that I certainly donâ€™t want to serve food to my family if Iâ€™m slaving over a hot stove and mad at them for not doing chores.Â All that negativity goes straight into everything I touch, and instead of infusing a meal with love, I will have funneled all my crappy feelings into dinner.
Iâ€™ve heard diet experts comment on how we really donâ€™t know what restaurants put into our food.Â Tons of fat for one thing.Â Lots of salt and preservatives, for another.Â ButÂ thereâ€™s really more going into what you eat when you eat out than just ingredients and a bazillion calories.Â
Over the past few weeks, Iâ€™ve commented several times about the poor service Iâ€™ve received at a breakfast biscuit drive-through whenever Iâ€™ve been running behind in the mornings and skipped breakfast at home in favor of something on the way. Â The employees make it very clear that they really donâ€™t care about serving the customerâ€”theyâ€™re just there for their paychecks so donâ€™t expect them to correct your order or to care if your food is cold.Â I donâ€™t think theyâ€™ve been spitting in my orange juice (itâ€™s sealed!), but I do know that kind of thing does happen at some resaturants and Iâ€™ve heard former disgruntled employees admit it years later.Â
In a conversation with an employee of a fast food restaurant that prides itself on excellent customer service, I was surprised to learn that an employeeâ€™s smile often masks a lot of negativity.Â I hadnâ€™t considered this before.Â I mean, I know that innately but I hadnâ€™t realized how much so many fast food employees despise their jobs and their customers.Â These are usually minimum wage jobs or just above and, around here at least, thereâ€™s always another minimum wage job next door if too many customers complain and you get fired.Â Somehow, the happy, pleasant, friendly manner of this restaurantâ€™s employees gave the impression that they were all enthusiastic about their job.Â Iâ€™ve been in there many times and the place has always been buzzing with friendliness.
â€œOh, no,â€ the star employee told me.Â â€œA customer orders the special and we smile and say â€˜Sure! Iâ€™d love to make that for you!â€™ and then we go into the back to make it and itâ€™s like, â€˜Oh, @$^#%!Â I have to make that #*$&^@Â Â &*($# special!’ Then we make it, cursing the whole time, and carry it out and smile and say thanks.”
Hmmm, so maybe itâ€™s better to eat in more often, make it ourselves with love and respect for ourselves, than to get those extra ingredients from angry food makers!