Dating the Mentally Ill

Mama always told me, when I was a teenager, “They’re best to you while they’re courting you.” It was a warning against all men, but she didn’t mean it as a misandrist attack.  She’d had…

3 Spiritual Reasons I Finally Quit Online Dating

This week, my online dating site subscription runs out.  I’m not renewing.  I decided that about four months ago when I put my profile on private and  began the wait to make sure they don’t auto-renew…

Learning Something from Men Who Aren’t Dirtbags

  I want to say thank you.  Thank you to the men in my life who aren’t dirtbags. Lest you think I’m being a misandrist, I really don’t have a general hatred for all men, but…

Best Partners: First Followers

This week, I was introduced to the concept of First Followers, for the first time. In essence, a leader may look ridiculous to the general public but when the first person has the courage to…

The Aftermath of Breaking Patterns

    Just because we’ve broken an old pattern does not mean  that it isn’t still there, even if it’s only broken shards reflecting the past and still capable of cutting us deeply. Now we…

When Will True Love Come? What “Work on Yourself” Really Means

  People often tell the broken-hearted to “Take a break” from looking for true love and “Work on yourself.” I admit that I’ve offered that advice to others, particularly to women who’ve centered their lives…

When Unconditional Love Just Isn’t Enough

  This past year has certainly been a season for understanding unconditional love and boundaries, however painful as it may have been.  But it’s also been a time for me of healing and understanding things…