Introducing the Past
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree .
Shannon said something rather profound as we were taking a nice walk
along the lake. I passed along some news from Jillian about her new romantic interest and how he was planning to introduce her to his friendsâ€”a big deal since a former boyfriend of hers never would do that because he was afraid of the controversy.
Shannon and I also were talking about boys, men, relationships and what happens when you meet their families and friends and how nervewracking that can be, whether youâ€™re 17, 30, or 45.
We talked of how you meet someone new and you get to know each other in the present, maybe even think about or wonder about the future. You get comfortable with each other, excited about each other.
â€œThen you meet their family or friends, and you introduce your past to them and that changes things.â€
Interesting. Because no matter how many hours you spend talking to each other, even when youâ€™re talking about your pasts, itâ€™s never quite the same as letting them meet your past up close and personal.
What was so profound to me was thinking of family, friends, all the people who have supported you in where you are, as the past…the whatâ€™s-happened-before-this-new-person.