Tag: friendship
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Do We Ever Really Know Anyone?
When I was very young, I believed I could really know someone after a few weeks of late-night talks. Decades and broken friendships later, I know better — and yet I still listen for the ones who say, “Welcome home.”
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Just Enjoying the Moment
I’m not “in” a relationship,” but this new friendship is proving to be very enjoyable. In some ways, I think it’s an anti-relationship because I’ve set the ground rules early on of no-pressure, just enjoy each other’s company, treat each other well, and be honest. I’ve known from the first conversation that there would be…
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Staying Put, Allowing, Wringing My Hands
I have never been one to watch a friend drown. Pardon the analogy. This metaphor is not an easy one, given how I was buried alive in a watery, muddy grave as a small child, but drowning is how I see this situation. I have always, even to the point of being pulled under myself,…
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Happy Birthday, Wherever You Are
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have such a head for numbers. Numbers as in dates. Calendar dates. I associate so many dates with different people, different events, with birthdays or anniversaries and things we did on those dates, even long ago. Even when they’re happy…
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A Sudden Sense of Reeling
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves. It was one thing to have the recent online attacks, the vicious ones focusing on my religion, confirmed today as coming from a woman I worked side by side with and considered a trusted friend…years ago. We’ve grown apart. Her recent shenanigans don’t hurt—I’m agitated…
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“I Can Tell You Anything” Has Consequences
Several months ago, I lost a good friend. It was very sudden, very unexpected. Like a death. I don’t talk about it. I don’t know what to say about it. I still don’t know exactly what happened. As for why, I’m trying to look at it in that big-picture sort of way that says we…
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Do I Impact You?
If you miss someone or something, it simply means they had an impact on your life. It’s an honor to be missed—absence, more than anything else, can show how connected we are to someone or something, even if we didn’t realize it. When they’re gone, they leave a gap, even if we choose to fill…
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Bi, Bi, Miss American Pie…
Sometimes I think I’ll just be a hermit. No more relationships. Not with friends, not with lovers, not with anyone. I’ll just hide in a cave and ignore the human race. I’ve had too many disappointments over the past few years. People pretending to be something they’re not. People lying to me. People trying to…
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Expectations, Intent, and Belief
Funny how you can look back on things through a different lens and see things you didn’t notice before. Honestly, if it weren’t for the spiritual work I did with Edain, I never ever would have seen this, never would have confronted this person, never would have learned the truth about some of the things…
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Get a Life…Yours, Not Mine
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Crimes to the Third Degree. I don’t understand why this woman is so obsessed with me, and it’s really getting on my nerves. You’d think she has a life of her own, but no…she’s totally focused on me and on what’s going on in my life, even when…
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The First to Call
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Life in the Third Degree. “Get off the phone—now!” I’m yelling to my 12-year-old as I hang up the cell phone and reach for the land line. “I have to talk to Miss Vicki!” My daughter has heard that phrase thousands of times in her life, since she…
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It’s Me Who Owes the Apologies
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Life in the Third Degree. Oh. My. Gods. I’ve had it all wrong. The Universe has been giving me mixed messages about my friendship with The Treat. Sometimes I get the message to let him be and give him some distance. At other times, I’m told in no…
