On Dating Atheists
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Tilt.
Geez, how could I have forgotten?! For Pete’s sake, I was married to an atheist for 18 years!
What attracted me to this particular man was nothing physical or spiritual. It was strictly on the mental level.
It was his ability to talk about both science and religion with some degree of objectivity, and he referred to himself as Christian but very eccentric in his beliefs. His words. Cool. There was a promise of a good heretical conversation, and I was craving that.
So…I took him up on his offer—he approached me— to get to know me better and talk science, philosophy, the whole works. He knew I was Wiccan and very serious about it, so I thought his approaching me meant that he was accepting of my faith. Nope. Big mistake, big waste of my time.
Less than five minutes into the conversation, I’d had enough.
Like my ex, he was an avowed atheist and while initially seeming to agree on so many of the same topics, he quickly launched into how his non-belief system is better than any other belief system, including mine, and that he intended to convert me to atheism as he had all his previous girlfriends. Yeah, pretty much a one-sided conversation. I let him finish his sentence ridiculing Wicca, and I was gone.
I lived that way for too many years. I’m not going to spend another minute with any man who ridicules my spirituality. I have to keep reminding myself, that if I’m going to have any self-respect, just how small my dating pool is.