Following Intuition, Not Logic
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Tilt.
Nothing makes Â me acknowledge Â my intuition Â faster than a primo business deal that everyone Â else thinks is great, Â but Â it Â just Â doesnâ€™t feel Â right Â to Â me. Â People Â are shocked when I donâ€™t agree. They expect me to Â explain myself, to defend my decisions not to take advantage of the opportunities they give me.
There was a time when I would have given in just because the idea sounded so good and I liked the person seeking me out. No more. To their shock, no more.
Recently, during a writersâ€™ conference, a very successful businesswoman Â and her partner approached me with an idea that Â had my enthusiasm bubbling. Â Because Â the conference was wrapping up and they needed a yes or no within 24 hours, I had to tell them no. Why? Â Intuition, and absolutely nothing more that I can put my finger on.
Logically, the deal would have been very advantageous to my little publishing company-if it worked the way they planned-though it would have been a considerable investment of my limited personal time and publisher time and without a direct financial return. The proposed joint venture would bring me lots of potential new customers in a new market,Â but not necessarily Â customers Â who would buy my type of spiritual books.
The woman and her partner, both of whom I believe honestly did have my best interests at heart in inviting me to be part of a deal they were brokering, were extremely upset at me for not jumping at the chance to work with them and a small consortium Â of writers and Â publishers. They could not believe Â Iâ€™d say no or have any doubts about this deal.
They felt that my decision not to participate was a slap in Â the Â face Â and Â something Â was Â mumbled Â about Â â€œnot bothering to do anything else for youâ€ and that I was un- grateful for their help. I was both hurt and Â peeved Â by their Â condescendingÂ Â attitudes Â and Â I Â know, Â without Â a doubt, that there wonâ€™t be any potential partnerships Â in theÂ future. Â Even Â if I felt Â that Â a new Â proposed Â project would work out wonderfully, they wonâ€™t give me another chance because they think I snubbed them.
I wasnâ€™t Â ungrateful. Â It Â just Â didnâ€™t Â feel Â right. Â And Â I fought not to feel guilty for saying no becauseÂ before, I would have relented even if it Â didnâ€™t feel right. I would have put their opinions ahead of my intuition. Â Iâ€™ve had some minor publishing disasters over the past half dozen yearsÂ Â because Â I Â went Â against Â my Â intuition, Â and Â Iâ€™ve learned from those hard lessons.
Today, I talked to someone Â in the consortium about the potentially prosperous Â project I turned down. In the past month, itâ€™s Â fallen to pieces. Money and time thatâ€™s been poured into the project Â have Â been for naught be- cause one of the earliest participants Â has become an obstacle to every vote taken by the consortium. Â I also discovered that the potential new customers have shifted to a predominantlyÂ Â Christian Â market-unlikely Â to Â have brought me more than a handful of sales in exchange for several months of full-time work on my part.
What seemed Â logically Â the Â right Â thing Â to Â doÂ would have been a time sink and a financial disaster. The intuition to say no seemed really Â dumb at the time, but Iâ€™m glad I listened to it.