Day: May 2, 2010

There’s a reason why ethical pagans do not believe in doing  love  spells  to get  their  man and why “good Christians” don’t pray to God that a certain someone will love them. It has to do with trying to control the destiny and will of someone else instead of just  nurturing the relationship and letting…

One of my favorite running jokes in the  Buffy the Vampire Slayer TV series was the absolute terror that Anya (Anyanka, the Vengeance  Demon) had in regard to rabbits. Of course, creator Joss Whedon  (Angel;  Firefly; Serenity) is a god among writers and as a writer myself, I have him most definitely on my to-meet-him-one-day…

I keep thinking about what Mark said about maps: that they show you where you are but not where you’re going. You never really know where you’re going until you’re already there. I should have known when I started this quick trip of mine, the night before I left, when I couldn’t find my map…

I awoke at exactly 5:55 a.m. It was the dream that woke me. Why am I dreaming about him? I’ve let it go. I’ve let him go. And yet, here he is in a dream. I’m at someone else’s house. I don’t know whose. The girls are with me. Shannon, I think. Yes…Shannon is with…

They’re doing me a favor. They think. They don’t like being alone. They’re not comfortable being alone. To them, it’s the same thing as lonely. They don’t want me to be alone and therefore lonely, and so here comes the invitation. “Do you have the girls this weekend?” she asks. “No, they’re with their dad.”…

Some lessons, I just have to be tested on again and again to make sure I learned it the first 500 times. Easy lessons are worthless, it seems. And the hard ones that need reiterating really hurt, even when I think I’ve got it already. Just having to be tested again is painful. But I…

I’m ready for a new man in my life, but something holds me  back.  I know…it’s  me.  The  fox  walks  halfway  into  the woods and every next step after than is one coming out of the woods. But what exactly is it that keeps me from taking another step? In the past month, I’ve talked…

As much as I hate to admit it, during my second singledom, the absolute best thing for my man-woman relationships has been to build  them slowly, sometimes agonizingly slowly. Some of these relationships never took root in a foundation of friendship, and so they fizzled—thankfully—before ever blossoming to romance. I’m glad of that now. It…

My relationship with The Treat doesn’t fit any other model, and maybe that’s what makes it so special. Since I asked him for his number last Fall and we had that first amazing Life-Death-and-the-Universe talk in December right after we both found ourselves divorced and starting over,  our  friendship  has  reminded  me  of  a  great …

From over my shoulder, my co-worker is reading my computer  screen as I check email. “My God!” she exclaims. “That’s the most gorgeous man I’ve ever seen in my life!” I shrug. Yeah, he is quite pretty. “So is this an Internet dating site?” Er, no. It’s an email from a man I haven’t seen…