6 Ways to Treasure Yourself (Including My Own Favorites)
It’s easy to get caught up in everyone else’s world and forget to pamper yourself a little. In fact, pampering yourself can feel downright selfish, even if you did just put in a 100-hour work week. Yet, if you’re trying to maintain or reach a place of balance and happiness, a little self-treasuring can go a long way.
Here’s my personal list:
1. Make time for meditation–20 minutes is plenty. I’ve worked with teachers, coaches, and advisers who’ve said things that made me feel guilty. They’ve chastised me for not taking a hour to meditate and spend that time on myself, and I distinctly remember explaining to one spiritual leader that it took me 30 minutes to get ready for work in the morning because that’s all the time I had when a toddler wasn’t hanging onto me and every time I tried to meditate, I was so exhausted that I fell asleep. I no longer have toddlers demanding my time so I try to catch 20 minutes’ meditation time every day, usually between work and my evening relaxation because it helps to get me focused and out of the “office” mode. Sometimes I simply set a time for 20 minutes, close my eyes, and listen. Who cares if my mind roams? Rejuvenation!
2. Flowers. Fresh flowers. Once a week. I prefer them from my own garden, but it that doesn’t work, a small bouquet from the grocery store is just fine or, even better, a flowering plant that can later join my garden. I love the scent and colors and a few fresh flowers a week add a touch of spring to every day.
3. Nightgowns and lingerie. When I was newly single, I stashed away lingerie for “eventually,” when I was in a relationship again. No more sleeping in T-shirts! Now I choose a different nightgown every night and feel wonderful in it whether I’m in a relationship or not. When unattached women wear crappy clothes to bed when they’d never wear them with a mate, they’re saying they’re not worth the little pleasantries.
4. Satin sheets. I’ve loved satin sheets since college when I splurged on a set of wine-red ones. For a long time, I didn’t have a mate who fancied them. Now, I have them in emerald green, ice cream pink, chocolate brown, shiny gold, and–of course–wine red.
5. A good night’s sleep. This is the hardest for me still. It’s said that every hour of sleep you get before midnight is worth 2 hours. Aim for sleep times that are multiples of 1.5 hours, the typical sleep cycle for the best rest ever.
6. A hot bath. I had to travel a lot when the kids were in pre-school, and I made the most of those hotel stays alone. The rocket scientists who traveled with me were out on the town but not me! I ordered room service and ate uninterrupted, watched TV uninterrupted, and then took a long, hot bath before crawling into bed for uninterrupted sleep. Back home, my one uninterrupted treasure was 30 minutes in the bath a few times a week–and that’s when I caught up on my reading. I still make it a must-have several times a week.
Everyone’s list is different, and even then, it can change from time to time. Your list might include music, incense, candles, pedicures, massages, or a glass of wine. The point is, come up with a short list of little things that feel luxurious to you, that make you feel like you’re selfishly putting yourself first for a change–and then commit to enjoying a few on a regular basis.