Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Contrast.
Doing things as a couple should certainly be a fun thing, but it doesn’t have to be the only avenue for enjoying yourself. Doing things in a group can be fun, too, but what if you don’t have a group or the group pairs off or your group just doesn’t share all of your interests?
Do you forgo new experiences simply because you have no one to share them with or your someone isn’t interested in the same pastime? Does that make you a dull person?
One of my co-workers complains that she really wants to see a particular new movie, but she hasn’t had a date in months and she can’t get a group together to go with her. Me, I don’t understand. She won’t go to a movie all alone. I can go alone, with my girls, or with a friend or a group of friends. That’s a habit I got into when I was half of a couple but my other half disliked my kind of movies and I got tired of missing them.
It’s odd sometimes, sitting in a movie theater, alone, excited about the movie I’ve so been looking forward to. Couples come in, families come in, groups come in. Seldom a solo, though.
One of my favorite things to do when I don’t have other plans for a weekend night—and occasionally a week night—is go out to dinner and a movie alone. There’s a little restaurant with tasty Italian food next door to my favorite theater…literally a 50 foot walk or less. Since I won’t drink and drive, it’s perfect for a glass of Chianti with dinner and then a stroll over to the theatre. I don’t do it often because I’m frequently working, but I do know how to have fun alone and enjoy my own company.
I wonder if this is what’s meant by the term, “I’m dating myself.”