Why Can’t You Be Happy for Me?

“Why can’t you just be happy for me?” It wasn’t a question. It was more of a demand. There was anger in his voice, as well as frustration. It came out in a–almost–throw-away, half-wail, half-retort….

Relationship Guideline: When You Start Making Excuses

It’s been years now, but I still remember the first time I made excuses for a significant other. I sat at my best friend’s kitchen table during a long lunch hour I’d taken in the…

Ghosting: Why Some Romantic Partners Disappear without Warning

My writer friend, Christine Ashworth,  called to my attention something I found to be all too common in the dating world. I didn’t realize it had a name and I really didn’t realize that anyone…

Before You Get Too Old, Make Things Right

There’s nothing sadder—or more karmic—than the husk of a once vital, strong, aggressive, even abrasive individual who has waited too late to make things right and has to both live and die with that regret….

How Can I Ever Trust Again?

For the last two years, my biggest personal hurdle has been trust. I was burned to ash and left with the constant question of “how can I ever trust anyone again?”  How many years would…

My Name Is Consequences

My name is Consequences. That’s my secret name. Known only to you.  You gave it to me. But not at first. At first, you called me by the name Curiosity. You called me Fun. You…

Do We Ever Really Know Anyone?

“When you look into an abyss, the abyss also looks into you.” – Friedrich Nietzsche When I was very young, I believed it was possible to know a person—really know them—after only a few weeks, or maybe even after only a few…

That Bullshit about Forgiveness

  You’ve heard that bullshit about forgiveness, haven’t you? If you’ve ever been hurt or angry or hurt and angry or brought to your knees, then someone somewhere has certainly lectured you on forgiveness…and how…

It’s a God Thing…and I’m a Turtle

The sun wasn’t even up yet—though the deepening pink on the tall white clouds announced its arrival—and my Fitbit had just buzzed my 10,000th step. I’d already said “Good Morning” to the usual dozen or…