August Full Moon 2010. Photo Copyright by Lorna Tedder
The next time you find yourself getting all stirred up over something someone else is doing, ask yourself, “What does it matter? How does it affect MY life?”
For example? How about “for examples”? Here are a few conversations I’ve noted in the last week:
1. Two discussions of [...]
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The watch-shrub in my neighbor’s yard. Hope it doesn’t escape from that leash! Photo copyright by Lorna Tedder, all right reserved.
I’m taking my cue from friend Maggie Shayne and doing a “seasonal review.” As this long, hot summer of 2010 fades away—the first hints of Autumn cool are on the horizon—I don’t want to remember [...]
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The quickest way to shut down or shut out trash talk is to know precisely who you are and have confidence in your own vision. If your confidence is the least bit shaky, someone else’s negativity or just plain mean behavior can send you scrambling for solid ground.
I [...]
The crescent path into the “fairy garden”– my special place to hide from all the talk of oil spills, methane gas, and the apocalypse du jour. Photo copyright by Lorna Tedder; all rights reserved.
Today, I read with confusion that the rain that fell here on the Gulf Coast yesterday was black with oil and that I’m [...]
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An ambitious little bluebird at the lake near my home. Photo copyright by Lorna Tedder; all rights reserved.
One of the hardest things for me to do, up until recently, was to relax and enjoy the moment–something that greatly hindered my happiness quotient.
Sure, I would see all the beauty around me, but instead of enjoying it, [...]
I’m all alone for a few weeks. You’d think something terrible has happened.
Honestly, the worst of it is trying to figure out how to make both a movie date and a yoga workout in the same evening.
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What an inspired picture! Photo credit by Janesdead; creative commons license
One of the quickest ways to lift a bad or negative mood is with music, but what happens if we expand on a mood-lifting song? What happens if your music is uplifting for, say, 2 weeks or a month?
By uplifting, I don’t mean “praise music” [...]
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I’m stunned that I forgot to set goals. That’s so unlike me. Goals are the guideposts to the future and without them, I tend to amble off the path.
One of the benefits of monthly sessions with a life coach is that they keep me on-track in my busy [...]
It’s my birthday and what am I thinking about? Bella. Bella from Stephenie Meyer’s vampire series that began with Twilight, a title which is still bizarre to me since Maggie Shayne wrote a few dozen vampire novels with twilight in the title and with a very strong following for her books well in advance of [...]
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Originally published in Third Degree and Rising, 2007.
This is important for reasons I cannot yet fathom, except that I’m looking for what is real.
We’re so sure of what reality is. We gaze at the night sky, at what’s not visible in the glare of harsh light, and congratulate [...]
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What was it you just said? “I’m getting old”? Or maybe, “I must be getting old and decrepit”? Rest assured, with that kind of self-talk, you’ll be feeling older than you are, faster than you can imagine.
How can I wake you up from giving yourself the [...]
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From the upcoming book, 23 Ways I Screwed Up My Life with the Law of Attraction—and How I Fixed It
I had a date with a man I can’t get out of my head. Normally, that would be a wonderful thing because—normally–there would be something pleasantly fascinating about the [...]
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Originally published in Third Degree of Freedom.
Two women from the Philippines are helping me with a home project. They’re smart, they work hard, and they’re compassionate. Traits I obviously admire. And even though they’ve both been handed their share of tragedy, they still agree, “Life is good.”
One is a single mother of six who just [...]
My dearest, darling Lorna:
We are about to send you someone who will tell you some great and useful things, many of which you already know but need a new way of thinking about them… but the real gift will be more in what this man shows you than in what he [...]
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From the upcoming book, 23 Ways I Screwed Up My Life with the Law of Attraction—and How I Fixed It
I’ve really been screwing myself at work. The day job, that is. Once I realized what I was doing, I put an immediate stop to it. I’d let [...]
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Today is a milestone day for me. It’s a milestone because it was 5 years ago today that I sued my 20+year mate for divorce and started a new life. It’s a milestone because that was a time of great uncertainty and wondering where I’d be in 5 years and if I’d “make it.” I [...]
One of the basic tenets of the Law of Attraction is that we attract to us that which is similar in “vibration.” The problem is, how do you figure out what your vibration is so you can clean it up and attract something better.
Actually, this is one of the easier Law of Attraction questions [...]
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***Pic: My home office’s annex. That’s my desk.***
A day to remember. Not for what I accomplished but for what I didn’t. It was my day off, my day to catch up on things around the house, including laundry and dishes and correspondence. I had a billion things on my [...]
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Are you getting what you want? I am. Finally. And the change is most evident by looking around my home.
While working on a refurbishment project both inside and outside my house, I had begun to notice a pattern I’d somehow missed. It’s a pattern of doing without, of sacrificing, of [...]
Find the right vibrational match and increase your income. It’s time to stop selling yourself short.
As part of my newest personal/spiritual development stretch, I’m raising my coaching rates and no longer discounting the prices on the books that I write. This is definitely a stretch for me.
For several years now, I’ve had clients and [...]
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Do regular check-ups and medical tests do more harm than good? Does focusing on curing certain diseases or making war on what we don’t want bring those things to our doorsteps? I’ve seen it in my personal life often enough to know that it certainly can.
Though I’m feeling very confident right now about my medical [...]
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As my body tries to heal, I find that the usual drains on my energy are too much for me and I need to conserve and focus on myself. Helping other people has been such a norm for so long that it’s hard to make the switch, but I am slashing through some of the [...]
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There’s an old saying about throwing good money after bad. It means that you’ve discovered something isn’t working but you continue to spend money on it, usually hoping that more money will improve on something useless or inefficient.
But what if it’s not money or anything physical? For me, it was [...]
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I’m a big fan of looking over your shoulder every now and then to know how far you’ve come. I can point to three different events in recent months that have been solid proof to me that I have my self-confidence back, and really, maybe even to a point [...]
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