Category: Personal Evolution
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When You Do Everything Right and Things Don’t Work Out
The hardest thing for me is not when I fail. The hardest thing is not when I don’t get what I want. The hardest thing is not when all the things I wish for do not materialize. The hardest thing is not NOT having enough or NOT being enough. The hardest thing is not disappointment…
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I Am Enough: Gratitude for Those Who Hurt Me Deeply
There are times when I still think about one particular man and what our relationship could have been, and it still hurts. But I’m grateful that he came into my life the way he did. And, also, that he left it the way he did–with his lies and manipulations being exposed. I’m also grateful to…
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5 Things I Learned from a Shaman in Less than an Hour
I’m used to high stress situations but by Thursday night, I was thiiiiiiiiiis close to banging my head against the wall, literally. I was at that point where I’d been working 12-15 days for so long…20 hours on one particular day…that I didn’t know how much longer I could keep it up, even though…
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Be the Person You Needed When You Were Younger
One of my writer pals, M.R. Sellars, shared with me a quote that made me think twice. Okay, actually more like ten times, not just twice. “Be the person you needed when you were younger.”– Ayesha A. Siddiqi The epiphany for me was realizing that I can’t tell myself to go be that person because–to…
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No Coincidence: Everything in Its Right Time
It’s said that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. But really, regardless of the length of time, it’s always for a reason. Sometimes a person comes into your life only for a brief period–five minutes, two weeks–not enough to qualify as a season but for a very specific…
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When the Child Is the Family’s Pillar of Strength
How in the world could anyone expect a small child to bear the brunt of the family’s needs? To be the emotional rock, the pillar of strength? Yet, I remember that burden being placed on me as early as six years old. Maybe even younger, but my memory is too uncertain at that point.…
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Mentoring: Making Rock Stars out of Ordinary People
I love mentoring the next generation. When I one day retire, I want to know that I don’t have to worry because I’ve left the future in good hands. About a year into my three-year internship program that started my Federal career, I was in my second assignment. I was in my 20’s, very quiet…
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Message from the Universe: Just a Test to Make Sure You’ve Got It Right
Dammit! A month in and I‘ve already failed. A long lost friend of mine used to tell me that the Universe has a way of ensuring that you’ve made a particular change in your life that you want to make. She used to say you can go days, weeks, months, even years on a new…
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This Year Will Be Different
A month ago…. Before dawn, on Thanksgiving morning, I woke in a cold sweat. For the past several nights, my dreams have been populated with visits from a former boyfriend, as well as other people in my past whom I have loved with much less madness. These dreams seem to be all sometime in the…
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Lorna’s Personal Guidelines for Work, Life, and Love
I have a series of personal guidelines I follow in both my professional and personal lives. They make all the difference in my satisfaction level at work and my happiness level at home. Here are the top 6—take what you will for yourself. If it’s not a “hell yeah,” then it’s a “hell no.” Too…