Making Peace When You’ve Done No Wrong

She is an elder in my spiritual community, and every now and then, she looks right through me and tells me things I need to hear, whether I want to hear them or not. A…

Choosing between Professional Goals and Personal Goals

The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book of business advice for millennials, How to Be a Badass Cubicle Dweller. And bam!   Just like that, I laid to rest the professional goal I’d been…

Gossip: How Christians Can Go to Hell

  “I would never say that,” I murmured, voice trembling, to the other girl’s teacher. The woman bent down, peering into my face. If she’d been my homeroom teacher or if I’d ever had a…

Why the Bullying Pattern in My Life Re-Surfaced

Why? I kept asking.  Why, why, why?   Though in the beginning, the question wasn’t Why? but Who?  I was trusting the wrong person, taking his word for everything because of his position, and because I really–really–did want…

What Would You Do with a Second Chance?

What would you do with a second chance? Would you squander it? Would you change your life? Would you promise to start over and then lapse back into old habits? We think, most often, of…

When I Don’t Know How to Have a Champion

In my whole life, I’ve had about as many champions as I can count on one hand. The women who have stood up for me over the long-term have been more second mothers than champions,…

Overshoot Your Goals. Always.

According to the Norman Vincent Peale quote,  “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”  The point is, if you have goals, you stand a chance of getting farther in life…

When You Do Everything Right and Things Don’t Work Out

The hardest thing for me is not when I fail.  The hardest thing is not when I don’t get what I want.  The hardest thing is not when all the things I wish for  do…

I Am Enough: Gratitude for Those Who Hurt Me Deeply

There are times when I still think about one particular man and what our relationship could have been, and it still hurts. But I’m grateful that he came into my life the way he did….