Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Passion to the Third Degree .
Maybe itâ€™s because I, for some reason, equate intimidating with domineering and I know theyâ€™re not the same but that that quirk is from something in my childhood. Iâ€™m also a relatively quiet person, which I donâ€™t equate to intimidating, perhaps because itâ€™s loud, aggressive, in-your-face people who have often intimidated me.
But…I am frequently told, especially over the past couple of years, that Iâ€™m very intimidating and it hurts my feelings, probably because people shy away from me when theyâ€™re telling me this. And thatâ€™s just the ones who come out and say it.
Iâ€™ve been told a few things that people find intimidating but Iâ€™m not going to change those things and I wonâ€™t even try. Iâ€™ve never been the straight-A student who tried to play dumb to get a guy in high school, for example, and I ainâ€™t â€˜bout tâ€™ start now.
So what is it about me that people find intimidating?