Law of Attraction: Reeling in That Which Was Lost
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Love in the Third Degree.
I think that in times of grief and loss, we send out such strong waves of energy saying â€œCome back!â€ that lots of things do come back, just not the ones we expect.
With so much loss over the past couple of months, I think Iâ€™m attracting long-lost people and things back into my life. I certainly reconnected with a lot of old friends and relatives because of Daddyâ€™s funeralâ€”most good, but there are also the cousins and relatives who stalk my sites without ever saying a word and think I donâ€™t know theyâ€™re there. Not that I censor a word I have to say because of them. What I have to say is for me and for my own healing and it is what it is, and if they donâ€™t like it, I suggest they go eavesdrop on some other support group.
With the last round of loss, quite a few others from my past have come back, some who know whatâ€™s happened and most who donâ€™t. Itâ€™s downright odd how many people have come back. All I can think is that I must be broadcasting a huge request for return because some of these out-of-the-blue reconnections are really not wanted. Some are very welcome, but some are not, and the Universe simply sends out the message to anyone open to receiving it that I want something back.
Case in point….
Yesterday, I heard from a woman I havenâ€™t really talked with since around October 2005. This is one of those people who reappears in my life and I immediately wonder, what do you want?
She asked how I was doing and reminded me that the last time we spoke, I was worried about a disturbing lump Iâ€™d found. Yes, over a year later, she asks how Iâ€™m doing. I explained that the Big Cancer Scare of 2005 was just a scare and Iâ€™d needed to reduce my caffeine intake and detox and Iâ€™m just fine now. So how have I been? I tell her about my dadâ€™s illness and death, etc, but that things are resolving. Thatâ€™s as far as I get.
Itâ€™s as if she hasnâ€™t heard a word Iâ€™ve said. Most people would say, oh, sorry about your dad or acknowledge in some way the answer to the question of â€œHowâ€™ve you been?â€ But then I realize that what I have to say doesnâ€™t matter. This is just small talk before the real reason for the call comes.
Instead of any acknowledgement, she mentions that sheâ€™s a little low on cash these days and do I think I might be able to help her out?
Clearly, I have to fill these gaping holes and stop transmitting signals of â€œcome-back-into-my-life.â€