Weighing the Image of the Perfect Woman

Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Below.

Ah, the Christmas  holidays and all the dirty, rotten celebrants are trying out their baking skills…on the people at work. Everywhere I go, it’s fudge, chocolate, and tons of calorific  goodies.  Everyone  wants to share  the abundance, including the abundance of excess weight that crops up between Thanksgiving and the first of January. And all I can think is, damn those scales!

Attract Him Back

I did the Stupid Thing a couple of months ago while I was so busy at the office and skipped breakfast on a regular basis—and often lunch—so I could get the job done, and then slacked off on my powerwalks. All very bad for my metabolism and I hiked back up about 7 or 8 pounds from the  20 pounds I’ve kept off for a good long time. Not happy about it, but I stopped the weight gain by get- ting back to a regular eating schedule.

So I sit and commiserate with a couple of female colleagues. We all love the holiday goodies but fear we might as well  apply  them  directly  to  our  hips.  Even  without looking  at  the  scales,  we  can  tell  when  we’ve  gained weight (or lost it) by the fit of our clothes. And this is the hardest time of the year to “eat healthy.”

As my socializing  breaks up, one of the men I work with shakes  his head. “Why do you women  beat your- selves up all the time about weight?”

Good question. Different cultures view beauty differently. In less “civilized” cultures, round women are signs of abundance whereas in   the  more   “civilized” or “developed” societies, the women are considerably thinner. In the  US,  in  this century,  damned near  anorexic seems  to  be  the  image  that  media bombards  us  with. Young, extremely  thin, a starving version of the Maiden image with a tolerance for the Mother image and fluctuating disdain and progressive neglect of the Crone image.

“I don’t  understand  why  all you  women  think  you have to be so  skinny,” my male colleague says. “Just be healthy and don’t worry about a few extra pounds. Some of us guys happen to really like women with a few curves. You know, the ones who are soft and not a bag of bones to lie on.”

I think that, because I’ve always been around either people who thought of Depression-era skinny as healthy or people who thought a Hollywood size zero was sexy, I always  thought  that  every  man  preferred  women  who were…not slender  or thin…but  absolutely  underweight and undernourished in a way I haven’t been since my college  days,  and  even  then  at  105  pounds  and  less,  I thought I was fat. I’ve certainly been around enough men who loudly snorted their disgust at any woman who was heavier than 10 pounds underweight. I don’t think, until now, that I’ve ever even considered  that some men don’t like skin-and-bones-thin.

I think this season, I’ll do myself a huge favor. No,

I’m don’t  mean  forgoing  the  baked  goodies,  though  I won’t go  overboard. And I don’t mean remembering to “eat healthy,” though that’s more of what I’m doing now. And I don’t mean getting regular exercise, though I’m doing that again, too.

No, the favor I’ll do myself is to take the bathroom scales and put them away indefinitely. I can tell by the fit of my clothes and how I feel if my weight is right. I don’t need to beat myself up with a daily measuring stick.