Who Makes Your Dreams Come True?
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Truth.
The best thing about working Â with a mentor Â is the positive-oriented objectivity and the resulting epiphanies.
My mentor Â glances Â over Â my Â huge Â to-do Â list Â to see which Â goals Â Iâ€™ve Â met. Â Thereâ€™s Â quite Â a variety Â that Â Iâ€™ve marked off and others that Iâ€™m close to wrapping up. Big things, little Â things, things that have been hanging over my head like the sword of Damoclesâ€¦.
– The back deck â€œprojectâ€ is close to being finished. Itâ€™s a â€œprojectâ€ because it has so many steps and I needed to break them down in order to Â accomplish anything at all. The Â main Â area Â and its walls Â are Â finished, Â as is the walkway. I still have a couple of spikes to tear out of the walls with my axe, but itâ€™s close. Iâ€™ve pulled up the grass and weeds in the new area and weâ€™re ready this week to lay bricks and set up the bird Â bath Â and new flowerbed. Itâ€™s been the daily sweat for much of the summer, but the endâ€™s now in sight. It looks great from the living room windows and will be ideal for those quiet candlelight rituals alone under the stars.
– Several Â new Â book Â projects Â are Â nearly Â complete. Theyâ€™re at the printerâ€™s and Iâ€™ll have inventory in stock by September.
– All the cabinetry handles in the house have been re- placed with newer, prettier ones, and ones that will match the new floor in the kitchen. The dog didnâ€™t know what to make of my carrying around a power drill, but hey, it was quicker that way.
– I located some long-lost info I needed for taxes, plus prepared about Â a 3-foot Â stack Â of papers Â for filing Â and tossed out several bags that donâ€™t Â need to filed or kept. The big garbage can never goes to the curb now without overflowing with things that are no longer part of my life.
– The girls and I had several Â nice dinners Â at home (Aislinn cooked!) with fresh flowers, candles on the countertops, quiet lighting, and good conversation.
– And on goes the list, pages and pages of to-do and to-done.
Then Â my Â mentor Â asks Â a Â simple Â question Â or Â two. â€œHow do you feel about all the goals you met since the last time we talked?â€
â€œGreat!â€ Iâ€™m especially happy with clearing out things that have been weighing on me for way too long. Iâ€™m get- ting rid of old obligations and old stresses.
â€œWhat was it,â€ my mentor asks, â€œthat supported Â you in realizing these goals?â€
That oneâ€™s easy. My family. Specifically, the girls.
I guess she can tell by the look on my face that Iâ€™m having trouble wrapping my mind around this concept of support and that it comes Â from family. The last time I took a hard look at my goals and emotional support was several years ago. The girls were too young to offer much help then. With the rest of my family, I felt every dream was an uphill battle and that I was out there all alone battling for my passions and if a family member was by my side, it was usually to tie one hand behind my back Â so that my goals were even harder to fight for.
This is different. Â For the first time in…ever?…I Â feel like Iâ€™m getting Â support Â from my family in making Â my dreams come true.