Second Chances and Last Chances
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Truth.
We often get second chances. But what do we do with them? First, we have to recognize a second chance when it comes along. By virtue of an issue coming up again for us or our seeing a pattern thatâ€™s not good for us, the Universe if presenting us with a second chance. Itâ€™s too bad most people donâ€™t recognize them.
Even when they do see a second chance for what it is, most people donâ€™t take advantage of what theyâ€™re offered. Iâ€™ve heard of far too many Â patientsÂ on their deathbeds who have begged to be saved by a difficult operation or treatment. Theyâ€™d do anythingâ€”change Â their diets, give up Â smoking Â and alcohol, Â get more exercise, Â commit Â to surgery, whatever it takes to squeeze another drop of life out of their bodies. Within weeks of being given a second chance at life, theyâ€™re back to their old ways.
The same happens with people who find themselves in the same situation again and again. They didnâ€™t get the lesson last time, so they get another shot at it. Usually, the ones I see donâ€™t learn from it. Â Changing course is hard, and itâ€™s often just too much work. And it does take work, and it does take seeing oneâ€™s own part in it all. But most people simply go back to their old ways, fall back into the old pattern.
People give Â each Â other Â second Â chances Â in relationships, too. Sometimes itâ€™s an opportunity to change old patterns of relating and make a fresh start. Sometimes itâ€™s a chance to see that severing the relationship Â was a mistake because Â thereâ€™s Â more Â to be Â learned Â from it. Most people either give too many second chances or they blow the chance theyâ€™ve been givenâ€”both usually out of fear.
Second chances are a huge gift, not to be taken lightly. We never Â know when a second chance will be our last chance.