I Will Not Share Good Newsâ€¦ I Will Not Share….
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Truth.
I close my eyes tightly and will everything to go away as I chant. I Â will not share good news…I will not share good news…I will not share good news….
In the past 24 hours, Iâ€™ve heard from two old friends I hadnâ€™t heard from much in the past year. I donâ€™t really include them as friends any Â longer but theyâ€™re still colleagues and I have to deal with them on a Â professional basis ever so often. Both called me for work-related Â reasons, quickly Â dispensed Â with Â the Â discussion Â of statutes and regulations, and then asked the inevitable.
â€œSo what Â ever Â happened Â about Â your Â problem Â with ?â€
Hmmm, Â okay. Â Ironic Â that Â theyâ€™re Â calling Â now, Â but something Â did Â happen Â concerning Â my Â problem Â about . Something good. Iâ€™d prefer to keep the conversation on more Â of Â a professional Â level but they push and push and part of me just wants to say that see, I wasnâ€™t an idiot for the way I dealt with .
I hem and haw. Iâ€™m not really sure I want to share the great stuff or explain why or how Iâ€™ve resolved my problem with . Iâ€™m still thinking through it, not quite believing it, just settling into the goodness of it. But a little self-validation of my decisions seems in order.
After repeated Â â€œSo whatâ€™s Â going Â on?â€ Â I finallyÂ give just a little of the good news. Not full blast. Not the history. Just in a nutshell where Â things stand and the decisions Iâ€™ve made.
The conversation Â played Â out Â almost Â the Â same Â with bothÂ friends,Â 24 Â hours Â apart, Â 1000 Â miles Â apart, Â a Â year since our last discussion of Â anything remotely related to my problem with . I delivered a hopeful but some- what watered down version of my good news.
The first friend: â€œWell, that wonâ€™t last very long. Just wait until you fall off your pedestal. The people who ad- mire you now will be gone faster than you can blink an eye and youâ€™ll be all alone.â€
The second friend: â€œWell, that wonâ€™t last very long. I was in a situation like that once and I tried the resolve it just like you are now and it was frigging miserable. Youâ€™re just going to end up hurt and angry like I did.â€
TheÂ funny Â thing Â is, Â Iâ€™ve Â avoided Â both Â people Â for much of the Â past year because they were always asking about my concerns about and I didnâ€™t want to hear their snide remarks when things were problematic for me. Now that things are excellent in this area, I donâ€™t want their wet blankets. Why do some people have the need to
call your hopes into the light just so they can take shots at them?
I will Â not Â share Â good Â news…I Â will Â not Â share Â good news….