Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree of Truth.
One of my hot buttons that I donâ€™t think will ever cool down is to see another mother do somethingÂ really stupid or self-centered. Who am I to judge? Iâ€™ll tell you.
I Â am Â the Â non-swimmerÂ Â whoâ€™s Â stayed Â (more Â than once!) Â withÂ Â small Â children Â in Â deep Â water Â until Â their momsâ€”strangersÂ Â to meâ€”remembered toÂ Â focusÂ Â on something other than a cute guy in a towel and good tan. Iâ€™m the womanÂ whoâ€™s grabbed Â a toddler running Â for Â a busy street while Momâ€™s trying to lick her boyfriendâ€™s ice cream cone. Iâ€™m the driver whoâ€™s stopped in the middle of a highway while a little tyke barely old enough to walk tried to cross to get to his mommy whoâ€™s walking 20 feet away and faster to keep up with the man sheâ€™s having an irate conversation with. I am the mom who…well, you get the idea.
As a mom, the protector Â in me comes out and I get livid when Â other Â moms Â donâ€™t Â pay Â attention, Â especially when itâ€™s some guy thatâ€™s so less worth it than her kids. I can really understand Â why â€œMotherâ€ and â€œWarrior Goddessâ€ are so closely associated.
Most recent hot-button pushes?
The 5-year-old struggling to ride his bike without falling overâ€”on Â an ultra busy street Â corner Â in town. Â No mom, no dad, not even an irresponsible Â sibling in sight. Besides the thousands of cars on this street Â daily, there are several registered sex offenders living within 2 miles of Â his Â neighborhood, Â according Â to a local website. Â If I were the type to steal children, I could have been at least
2 hours away by now. If I were the type to run over kids on bikes or not have good brakes, I could have been at least 2 hours away by now. If I were the type to molest little boys, he could have been dead in a ditch a couple of hours ago. This is my concrete proof of guardian angels.
The two-year custody struggle over a 16-year-old boy whose parents I know. Initially, his mom left his dad for another man Â and told his dad to take the kid. She had more important things on her mind. Then mom and new man #1 broke up and she got lonely and wanted the kid back. Which lasted for about 2 months, until she got a new boyfriend and sent the boy back to live with his dad. Then man #2 dumped her and she was all alone and didnâ€™t like being alone at night so she wanted the kid back. The judge gave the boy a choice but told him he couldnâ€™t change his mind again until he was 18. The boy really wanted some mom attention and went back with her, ex- cited that she wanted Â him. Within 3 months, Â yep, along comes a new boyfriend who quickly becomes a new husband and the boyâ€™s mom canâ€™t even get the kid fed when he has the flu because sheâ€™s off spending all her energy on the new Â spouse.Â Â So boyâ€™s dadâ€™s new wife takes him home,Â Â Â Â Â feeds him,Â Â Â Â Â and nurses Â him back to health, and boy stays with dad and step-mom.Â Â All is fine with mom because sheâ€™s now re-married, Â no longer lonely, and still getting Â child Â support Â for Â the Â boy Â (until Â heâ€™s Â 18) Â who never sees her. Grrrrrr.
I guess I was thinking Â about these things last night when Shannon was sick and I was stroking her hair. She tells me today that she canâ€™t imagine a mom like that be- cause Iâ€™m the only mom sheâ€™s ever known.