Turnaround Is Fair
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Curves.
Every so often, this happens, and I have to wonder. Am I being fair? Should I give someone another chance?
While helping with a special project this week, I spent more time than expected with three different men, all single. Â TheyÂ Â laughedâ€”genuinelyâ€”atÂ Â myÂ Â jokes,Â Â chatted openly, complimented this and that. Dropped a few hints to see if I was interested in them.
Thatâ€™s where I keep wondering if Iâ€™m being fair. Iâ€™d had some Â interest in them earlier. Nothing Â exceptional. They seemed nice enough Â (not obviously axe murderers or pedophiles), Â and I wasnâ€™t sure they met Â my requirements but I was willing to look a little deeper, make the effort, be open to possibilities. Enough of an interest for lunch or coffee. Â Iâ€™d let all three know at different times that Iâ€™d be interested in getting to know them better.
They werenâ€™t interested in me then. To put it politely, I didnâ€™t meet their physical requirements. They didnâ€™t put it that politely.
Do 10 pounds really make that big a difference? Do 20? Whatâ€™s the threshold for a man to decide a womanâ€™s interesting?
Men are starting to pay more Â attention now. Â A lot more. I donâ€™t Â trust it. Because of shallow men like this. Men who didnâ€™t like me 10 pounds ago. Men who turned up their noses at me 20 pounds ago.
Suddenly theyâ€™re a lot less appealing to me. They tell me I look great now, and I donâ€™t even want to be around them. If they couldnâ€™t share a cup of coffee or a glass of wine with me 10 pounds ago, I donâ€™t think I can return the interest now.
Itâ€™s fast becoming my turn to turn up my nose and sayÂ no thanks. Â Iâ€™m fine-tuning my fuck-you attitude, Â which gets an ironic response. All I can say is that these men will have to try a lot harder to get my attention this time.