Spells That Backfire & Wonky Magick
Copyrighted by Lorna Tedder. Originally published in Third Degree Tilt.
â€œWhat Iâ€™ve discovered,â€ the High Priestess says, leaning in close Â to me, â€œis that doing magick for others re- quires Â total Â unconditionalÂ love Â for Â them. Â Donâ€™t Â you agree?â€
I do. There are precious few people Iâ€™ve done magick for and who have asked me to do it for them, and itâ€™s always been at a price to me personally, but one I was willing to pay to keep the balance. But in every case, I loved and accepted them as they were and I knew I was to put forth the intentions Â and effort on their behalf because I felt Â that Â sense Â of universal Â oneness Â with Â them Â that Â so many spiritual people aspire to.
â€œAnd,â€ the High Priestess adds, â€œIâ€™ve also discovered that when you do magick to control someone Â elseâ€™s will or to make things turn out like you want them when itâ€™s clearly not what they want, that things go all wonky.â€
Okay, so wonky isnâ€™t a magickal term like widdershins or deosil or athame.
â€œWhat you mean?â€ I ask. Sheâ€™s been very clear that sheâ€™s not talking about anything that Iâ€™ve done but rather, the discussion centers on how it is that the Gods can allow Â certain Â magickal Â people Â to Â manifest Â things Â against other magickal people. Itâ€™s been on my mind for a while, and the Gods are using her to answer my questions.
â€œIn a nutshell,â€ the High Priestess says, â€œspells back- fire. Not always in an obvious way.
But the intent is deflected and it boomerangs back on the spellcaster, giving the spellcaster a taste of their own medicine.â€
I know all about what you send out coming back to you, but Iâ€™m not quite sure I understand Â what sheâ€™s saying. So she gives the following real-life example, I kid you not. I was shocked to her this from her.
Her sister became involved with a man that she, the High Priestess, didnâ€™t like. Basically, she didnâ€™t think he was Â good Â enough Â for Â her baby Â sister Â so Â she Â worked magick like crazy to make her sister forget about this guy and to move on. The younger woman did forget and did move on â€”from her big sister!
â€œI realized,â€ the High Priestess says, â€œthat all my spells regarding him were backfiring. Â They were working Â and very potent, and I really think that my magick was keeping the two lovers apart but it was also keeping me apart from my sister. Everything I wanted to keep from happening Â between Â them Â was Â mirrored in my Â relationship with my sister and I almost lost her over it. So I changed my strategy.â€ Â She looks Â up at Â me, Â a little Â sheepish. Â â€œI started doing spells that her eyes would be Â opened and that she would see this guy for what he was.â€
I laugh. â€œAnd that was?â€
She shakes her head. â€œYouâ€™re not going to believe this but heâ€™s a great guy! He is fantastic. Heâ€™s not the guy I would have picked for her but heâ€™s a great guy and heâ€™s exactly what she needed and exactly what she wanted and theyâ€™re wonderful to each other.â€
She pauses Â to show me a picture Â of their wedding, with her standing by the brideâ€™s side.
â€œI wanted her eyes to be opened so she would see what this man was, this man I didnâ€™t like, who I didnâ€™t think was good enough for my sister, and instead what happened Â was, Â not Â only Â were Â her Â eyes Â opened but Â so were mine. I just canâ€™t believe what an incredible person he is. Theyâ€™ve been together for several years now and they have kids together and theyâ€™re still head over heels in love with each other.â€ She shakes her head. â€œAnd I canâ€™t believe that I actively did things that would have robbed her of this happiness. It was a long road for her to get together with this guy and I made it even longer. But now I adore him almost as much as she does.â€
Iâ€™m surprised at her confession. Sheâ€™s one of the most ethical people Â I know, so I ask her why she would do something like this when it goes against our training.
She shrugs. Â â€œI Â was Â playing Â God.â€ Â She Â laughs. Â â€œOr maybe playing Goddess. I thought I knew better than her what was best for her.â€
I give her a hug and head back to my office, but what Iâ€™d really like to do right now is it light a little candle of gratitude Â for Â hearing Â her Â opinions Â on Â why Â the Â Gods sometimes allow manipulative magick.