Throwing Good after Bad
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Thereâ€™s an old saying about throwing good money after bad.Â It means that youâ€™ve discovered something isnâ€™t working but you continue to spend money on it, usually hoping thatwill improve on something useless or inefficient.
But what if itâ€™s not money or anything physical?Â Â For me, it was a major hump to get over when I decided that yes, I really could unclutter a closet and I didnâ€™t have to keep a dress I hated and hadnâ€™t fit into for 10 years just because I spent a fortuneÂ on it long ago.Â Releasing the energy and the physical manifestation of it was difficult at first but freeing once I figure out how to detach from it.
Itâ€™s much harder when the thing youâ€™ve invested in isnâ€™t physical.Â Take a relationship, for example.Â Yes, youâ€™ve been with that person for a year or two and invested all that time and emotion but
youâ€™re getting nowhere.Â Hereâ€™s a big hint:Â if your relationship gives you stomach ulcers, then maybe itâ€™s time to detach from it?Â Instead, you keep putting time, effort, emotion, heart, and maybe even soul into something that doesnâ€™t work and probably will never work.Â Youâ€™re too attached to what youâ€™ve invested, and it starts to own you and suck you dry.Â If it were good money you were throwing after bad, at some point youâ€™d deplete your bank account and have to make a change.Â With relationships, most people donâ€™t make the change until they hit rock bottom and are emotionally depleted.
The same goes for intangible products or services.Â Iâ€™m currently detaching from a particular way of doing business thatâ€™s not working for me.Â Iâ€™ve resisted, though, for a couple of years becauseâ€¦well, because I put a lot of money into the software and set-up for a particular website and changing is like admitting it was all a mistake.Â Â Iâ€™m changing my view, though.Â It wasnâ€™t a mistakeâ€”though I did lose a lot of financial opportunityâ€”but rather, it was proof that thereâ€™s a better way to handle something thatâ€™s intangible.Â In this case, I made a change to an old website from something that was working very well, bringing in lots of traffic and a growing income, to a different model that looked more â€œprofessional.â€Â I invested a lot of myself into these new changes, but honestly, what Iâ€™ve been doing since I first realized this wasnâ€™t working is throwingÂ good time after bad.Â Not only did I waste time setting up a new model, but Iâ€™ve been continuing to waste time (and life) on it rather than release it and go back to the system that was much more successful.
Nothing requires us to hold onto that expensive dress that no longer fitsâ€¦or that business effort thatâ€™s costing us more in time than we can affordâ€¦or that relationship thatâ€™s sucking us dry.Â Nothing but our own beliefs that releasing something is the same as giving upâ€¦or failing.