Comments on: Walking Away from Someone You Love (and Hate and Fear) http://www.thespiritualeclectic.com/2008/10/24/walking-away-from-someone-you-love-and-hate-and-fear/ Because Spirituality Is Not One-Size-Fits All Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:39:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Fastest Rising Spiritual Posts « The Spiritual Eclectic http://www.thespiritualeclectic.com/2008/10/24/walking-away-from-someone-you-love-and-hate-and-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2582 Fastest Rising Spiritual Posts « The Spiritual Eclectic Mon, 26 Jul 2010 01:23:31 +0000 http://thespiritualeclectic.wordpress.com/?p=468#comment-2582 [...] Walking Away from Someone You Love (and Hate and Fear) [...] [...] Walking Away from Someone You Love (and Hate and Fear) [...]

]]> By: Making Peace in Dysfunctional Families: How to Fix It and Whether You Should « The Spiritual Eclectic http://www.thespiritualeclectic.com/2008/10/24/walking-away-from-someone-you-love-and-hate-and-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-559 Making Peace in Dysfunctional Families: How to Fix It and Whether You Should « The Spiritual Eclectic Thu, 11 Feb 2010 02:53:10 +0000 http://thespiritualeclectic.wordpress.com/?p=468#comment-559 [...] 5 years old, and the busy-body who refuses to speak to me (thank Gods!) for blogging honestly about how I dealt with my father’s death. Outsiders and family peacemakers usually have an ideal in mind that I have personally not known [...] [...] 5 years old, and the busy-body who refuses to speak to me (thank Gods!) for blogging honestly about how I dealt with my father’s death. Outsiders and family peacemakers usually have an ideal in mind that I have personally not known [...]

]]> By: Lorna Tedder http://www.thespiritualeclectic.com/2008/10/24/walking-away-from-someone-you-love-and-hate-and-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Lorna Tedder Thu, 25 Dec 2008 04:42:41 +0000 http://thespiritualeclectic.wordpress.com/?p=468#comment-292 Not strange at all. It's actually harder, I think, to live with grieving a relationship that will never be and keep hoping that something will happen and there'll be a breakthrough. You're always hostage to that hope. If it were a lover, people would tell you to move on :) It's actually been much easier for me since Daddy passed because I no longer keep wishing things would get better and knowing they're up to the other person. All we can do is work on ourselves and make sure we break those old patterns and don't pass them along. So big hugs tonight. I know where you are emotionally, and I wish you well. And thanks for letting me know that this was of help to you. Lorna Not strange at all. It’s actually harder, I think, to live with grieving a relationship that will never be and keep hoping that something will happen and there’ll be a breakthrough. You’re always hostage to that hope. If it were a lover, people would tell you to move on :) It’s actually been much easier for me since Daddy passed because I no longer keep wishing things would get better and knowing they’re up to the other person. All we can do is work on ourselves and make sure we break those old patterns and don’t pass them along.

So big hugs tonight. I know where you are emotionally, and I wish you well. And thanks for letting me know that this was of help to you.

Lorna

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.thespiritualeclectic.com/2008/10/24/walking-away-from-someone-you-love-and-hate-and-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Jennifer Thu, 25 Dec 2008 03:46:00 +0000 http://thespiritualeclectic.wordpress.com/?p=468#comment-291 I want to thank you for this post. This may sound strange, but I have it bookmarked and read it on occasion, particularly on nights like tonight (Christmas Eve). Your account of your father mirrors my mother, who is still alive but we have not had contact in the last 6 months since I told her she could no longer emotionally abuse me. I told her I needed her to get help for her mental and emotional issues stemming from her own abuse as a child, and instead she has been cruel to me by doting on my siblings and ignoring me altogether. It is incredibly painful, but I have had to walk away for my own emotional and physical well being. There are times that I want to pick up the phone and try to "work it out", but I know I would just succumb to her emotional torture as I have been trained to do since childhood. Your post on this topic helps me stay strong and believe that taking care of myself is not a sin. Your words give me hope that I'm going to be ok. Thank you so much. I want to thank you for this post. This may sound strange, but I have it bookmarked and read it on occasion, particularly on nights like tonight (Christmas Eve). Your account of your father mirrors my mother, who is still alive but we have not had contact in the last 6 months since I told her she could no longer emotionally abuse me. I told her I needed her to get help for her mental and emotional issues stemming from her own abuse as a child, and instead she has been cruel to me by doting on my siblings and ignoring me altogether. It is incredibly painful, but I have had to walk away for my own emotional and physical well being. There are times that I want to pick up the phone and try to “work it out”, but I know I would just succumb to her emotional torture as I have been trained to do since childhood. Your post on this topic helps me stay strong and believe that taking care of myself is not a sin. Your words give me hope that I’m going to be ok. Thank you so much.

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