Turning the Tables on Controlling Comments
This photo by ratterell captured my mood!
Isn’t it annoying when you have a list of 5238 things to accomplish and you’re chugging along nicely, feelingÂ proud of yourself for getting so much done, Â when someone steps in and tells you all the things you should be doing, many of which are already on your list?
Ultimately, I find that people who make comments of this sort are either 1.Â trying to control your time and resources, often through guilt-oriented manipulation; 2.Â trying to deflect attention from all the things that THEY need to do but can’t admit to themselves or others that they haven’t been properly motivated to get it done; or 3.Â both.
So I’ve found a way to turn the tables without getting so utterly defensive.Â Most people who try to make something my #1 priority have no idea that I have 4288 things ahead of whatever item they’d suddenly decided should be a life-or-death-magnitude decision.
Thank you for reading!Â The complete version of this article is now included in Give Your Life Direction.