What It Is Wednesday: Killing Off My Core Belief about Marriage

For most of my life, I’ve been pretty happy with the idea of undefined relationships. They could be close and emotionally intense and defy all known tropes in a romantic relationship. Here’s the thing: I…

What It Is Wednesday: How Prayers Are Answered

I believe the answer to prayer takes the path of least resistance. Sometimes praying for something better means everything around you falls away harshly before something new and good can grow out of scorched earth….

What It Is Wednesday: The Coldness of Self-Protection

I feel ashamed at the moment. Facebook Memories are messing with me badly. Most of those old posts that are being resurrected via FB are private/only for me, but they still pack a wallop. One “memory” turned…

What It Is Wednesday: I Wish I Were Younger

For the first time in my life, I wish I were younger. Probably not for reasons you might think. I’ve always fired back at newly-forty-somethings who insist they’re old and promptly pigeon-hole themselves into an…

How to Offend an Astrologer

I am told that I offend professional astrologers everywhere when I use terms like astrology buff or astrology hobbyist. However, I use those words about myself, not about the pros. Astrology is indeed a hobby…

What It Is Wednesday: Orange Tabby Cats

Orange tabby cats make me feel better. Why? Because they are my reminders to keep the faith, to keep my focus on where I’m going. Whenever I start to doubt, they show up. Like in…

Choosing between Professional Goals and Personal Goals

The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book of business advice for millennials, How to Be a Badass Cubicle Dweller. And bam!   Just like that, I laid to rest the professional goal I’d been…

Gossip: How Christians Can Go to Hell

  “I would never say that,” I murmured, voice trembling, to the other girl’s teacher. The woman bent down, peering into my face. If she’d been my homeroom teacher or if I’d ever had a…

What It Is Wednesday: Am I Happy? Content?

I’m still mulling over what I’m taking as a compliment, though I’m not sure if it was meant that way. I seldom am shown how other people view me, unless it’s the rumor mill and…

Relationship Guideline: When You Start Making Excuses

It’s been years now, but I still remember the first time I made excuses for a significant other. I sat at my best friend’s kitchen table during a long lunch hour I’d taken in the…